You're already taking a positive first step because you've acknowledged you're having a problem, I think.
A good next step would be to internalize and accept that women liking what you like is fine because they are fellow human beings. It can take time and emotional effort, but internalizing that sort of radical acceptance can do a world of good. If you're interested in dating women, it can even help there. The "women are weird and strange and alien" :brainworms: are what trip incels up all the time and make them resent and hate women while the women did nothing really to deserve that hatred.
I'm just trying to acknowledge it before It gets out of hand. I think i've been spending too much time in class reductionist circles on the internet. I'm a marxist leninist but been hanging around the wrong types of MLS.
I’m a marxist leninist but been hanging around the wrong types of MLS
just acknowledging this is a great step for personal progress. there are "MLs" out there who are straight up neocons. patsocs, larouchites, and most trots are just awful.
"To be aware of one's own mistakes and yet make no attempt to correct them, taking a liberal attitude towards oneself. This is an eleventh type [of liberalism]" -Mao. self crit is very important for communists, good on you for working to correct yourself.
as other hexbears mentioned, meet women. befriend them. try to make it strictly platonic. treat them like people! if you have problems at first, imagine you are talking to a guy friend (this attitude shouldnt be permanent but its a good temporary method of correction). its hard to find friends in the modern world but most dating apps have "friend modes". talk to ppl at bars if you go to them. join an online group of ppl local to you, the Socialist Rifle Association and other socialist orgs are great for this, in the SRA state chapters have discords with chats for each region of the state.
read some feminist literature. i need to brush up on socialist feminist theory myself, but Rosa Luxemburg is great! and she has some essays on women's liberation. socialist suffragists are cool, try Dora Montefiore.
Yeah, you want to get out of those places. Not just because of misogyny, but also racism. Habits can be hard to break, so it would be a good idea to put up some barriers between you and them. Delete your account if it's something you log in to, that kind of thing. It's too easy to just slide right back in to what you're used to, even when you know it's not good for you. Some of the more technologically inclined users here might be able to help you with some ideas for putting up other barriers for yourself.
As for why you resent it when women enjoy the same things you enjoy, I think @Kanna and @macabrett have already given you the best answers. I would just add that it is probably worthwhile to really dig in to where your desire to see women as "other" is coming from. Why is it fine if another guy likes [thing] but not OK if a woman does? I'm guessing there's some resentment there that you need to unpack for your own mental health. Remember that we're just people too, with our likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, etc. You said somewhere else that you're struggling with depression, so I'm guessing you're probably having a hard time being kind to yourself right now, and maybe you're having a hard time being kind to others as well. If it's something you can afford, I can't recommend therapy highly enough.
You're already taking a positive first step because you've acknowledged you're having a problem, I think.
A good next step would be to internalize and accept that women liking what you like is fine because they are fellow human beings. It can take time and emotional effort, but internalizing that sort of radical acceptance can do a world of good. If you're interested in dating women, it can even help there. The "women are weird and strange and alien" :brainworms: are what trip incels up all the time and make them resent and hate women while the women did nothing really to deserve that hatred.
I'm just trying to acknowledge it before It gets out of hand. I think i've been spending too much time in class reductionist circles on the internet. I'm a marxist leninist but been hanging around the wrong types of MLS.
I sincerely believe the fact that you're making that effort means you're not too far gone.
Women are comrades too. As Mao put it, women hold up half the sky. :ranmao:
just acknowledging this is a great step for personal progress. there are "MLs" out there who are straight up neocons. patsocs, larouchites, and most trots are just awful.
"To be aware of one's own mistakes and yet make no attempt to correct them, taking a liberal attitude towards oneself. This is an eleventh type [of liberalism]" -Mao. self crit is very important for communists, good on you for working to correct yourself.
as other hexbears mentioned, meet women. befriend them. try to make it strictly platonic. treat them like people! if you have problems at first, imagine you are talking to a guy friend (this attitude shouldnt be permanent but its a good temporary method of correction). its hard to find friends in the modern world but most dating apps have "friend modes". talk to ppl at bars if you go to them. join an online group of ppl local to you, the Socialist Rifle Association and other socialist orgs are great for this, in the SRA state chapters have discords with chats for each region of the state.
read some feminist literature. i need to brush up on socialist feminist theory myself, but Rosa Luxemburg is great! and she has some essays on women's liberation. socialist suffragists are cool, try Dora Montefiore.
and read settlers .
Yeah, you want to get out of those places. Not just because of misogyny, but also racism. Habits can be hard to break, so it would be a good idea to put up some barriers between you and them. Delete your account if it's something you log in to, that kind of thing. It's too easy to just slide right back in to what you're used to, even when you know it's not good for you. Some of the more technologically inclined users here might be able to help you with some ideas for putting up other barriers for yourself.
As for why you resent it when women enjoy the same things you enjoy, I think @Kanna and @macabrett have already given you the best answers. I would just add that it is probably worthwhile to really dig in to where your desire to see women as "other" is coming from. Why is it fine if another guy likes [thing] but not OK if a woman does? I'm guessing there's some resentment there that you need to unpack for your own mental health. Remember that we're just people too, with our likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, etc. You said somewhere else that you're struggling with depression, so I'm guessing you're probably having a hard time being kind to yourself right now, and maybe you're having a hard time being kind to others as well. If it's something you can afford, I can't recommend therapy highly enough.
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