I've really started to hate it when women like what I like. What can I do to change this?

  • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    So, you've heard all the W takes about emotional development and therapy. Ready for a fringe, L take? Sub to c/fitness. Hit the gym. Diet down or get gains. Get a more aesthetically pleasing body. People will probably start treating you better. It'll be more difficult to care about anyone else's flaws when all you can think about is food and how disappointed you are that you only got 3 of your 5 reps squatting 165kg because you can't carry the revolution on your back because the revolution weighs AT LEAST 4 plates. Henry Rollins said it best when he said, "Friends may come and go but 200lbs is 200lbs."

    More aesthetic -> people treat you more nicely -> easier to enjoy having them around -> regular relationship problems instead of being an incel

    • UlyssesT [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      There's a very real subcategory of incels called gymcels that do otherwise positive exercise and diet changes to their lives but don't address their own internalized misogyny or other toxic "blackpill" bullshit and so remain lonely and in some cases more bitter and now more physically capable of hurting other people.

      I hope dearly that this does not become the case here.

        • UlyssesT [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          That doesn't automatically or magically fix things. I have distant relatives in rural areas, and without doxxing myself too much, one has been a lifelong misogynist with a far too large gun collection, doesn't even have a smartphone let alone a computer, and may very well have already been involved in a few hate crimes in his local area.

          :logout: is a cute meme but it isn't an instant fix for some people.

          • RonJeremyCorbyn [none/use name]
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            2 years ago

            okay, i apprecate that experience.

            online is not necessary to make one a reactionary, though i do feel like the flavor of "incels" is definitely an online phenonemon. and though there are certainly more and less healthy online discourses, i think, if one is struggling, pulling the plug would be helpful, when it's in conjunction w/ doing things with people in real life, seeing a therapist, taking care of one's physical self, and so on.

            • UlyssesT [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              I actually agree with you there.

              In the case of that distant relative, I feel his isolation (much of it voluntary; he's one of those "jackbooted thugs from the UN on black helicopters" old fashioned chuds) is actually making his problems worse, though to be fair if he logged into something he'd almost instantly find Q!non cultists to add more :brainworms: to what he already believes.

      • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        Well, you have to consider

        Leftist sympathies +1

        Being aesthetic af +1

        Based as hell c/fitness mod (me) +1

        Zizeksniffer's gonna make it