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My girlfriend and I have been talking about entering an open relationship the last 3 years. We’ve been together for 6 and had our ups and downs but we’ve been really solid the last two years. We love each other and I say our relationship is strong.
The last week, we’ve been laying ground rules for potentially opening up our relationship. We want to keep it very casual with other people.
Anyone willing to share their experience both good or bad?
my partner and i dated someone for about 10 mos or so and they were dating us as a couple. we were nominally poly at the time. met them through the bdsm scene so it worked because we were all gender experimenting together, were nerds and had a pre arranged structure for our sexual relationship which we worked out when we first hung out a few days in person.
it was too long distance (not super far but like 2 states away) in the end to maintain despite our efforts. we're still technically open but not actively looking since we don't want to date people on our own (unless there were certain conditions we've discussed that are very rare). we weren't "unicorn hunters" or something cringe but always felt we couldn't give each other all the attention we needed. now i don't think i'd ever be able to find some random person i'd trust enough to let into our relationship.
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Edit: More specifically, what the hell does that mean?
its a term for het couples looking for a bi girl (or occasionally a lesbian, by not mentioning the boyfriend for a while) to be a purely sexual non-committal third person in their relationship. they are (or were) unfortunately common on wlw tinder
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Unicorns are the third to a couple and in bed, straps a dildo to their head (like a unicorn's horn, thus the name) to penetrate the couple
Alright, I'm pretty sure you're making this part up.
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Only sometimes.
It refers to the tendency of emotionally unprepared couples to want a "third" as an emptionally unattached single female they can use as a toy. Becuase of the rarity of this working they are called unicorns.
It is very cis/het and useually invalidates multiple people's feelings before falling appart badly.
sorry for late reply. "unicorn hunters" are those cringe usually cishet couples looking for a bisexual woman not to create a meaningful relationship but just to basically have someone to sexually exploit. the unicorn is this woman that doesn't exist in the real world.