Thanks, shitheads. Glad you're able to eat burgers in restaurants and don't have to feel uncomfortable around your unmasked family members so people like me can have a much harder time.

  • macabrett
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    2 years ago

    And on another end of it, I haven't been able to trust people to stay safe before we hang out since mid 2021. I'm considered unreasonable for wanting to hang out outside, despite me being immunocompromised and everyone knowing it.

    • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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      2 years ago

      I’m considered unreasonable for wanting to hang out outside

      If you can't hang out inside and you can't hang out outside...

      me being immunocompromised

      Fucking sucks. I'm just not clear what the solution is. Your friends want to hang out with you, but you all live in a society that's got a contagious virus banging around continuously for years on end. What's the solution?

      Mask up? Bring a big bottle of hand sanitizer? Keep at a relatively safe distance and do something that doesn't involve bodily contact?

      I get that trust is an issue, but at this point it almost feels like socializing is the modern day equivalent of having sex during the AIDS crisis, maybe pared down a bit since COVID isn't an automatic death sentence. At some point, you're either celibate or you're taking some risks.

      • macabrett
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        2 years ago

        I can tell you that the choice I've already made is celibacy (aka being a hermit). Unfortunately, people work very hard to make me feel bad about that choice.

          • macabrett
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            2 years ago

            Very toxic way of showing it

            • GaveUp [she/her]
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              2 years ago

              Do you know if n95s are suitable enough for your immunocompromised situation? The statistics on those look pretty good even if others aren't masking up

              • macabrett
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                2 years ago

                They are something I use if I have to be in an enclosed space with people, but they aren't fool-proof enough to trust over long periods of time. I'm not willing to risk my life on it.

      • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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        2 years ago

        What’s the solution?

        Wear masks and hang out outside. It's not complicated. It's not aids, it's literally sitting in a park or on someone's porch.

        This is the easiest shit in the world.

        1.) Wear a mask

        2.) Go outside

        People act like they're being asked to cut out their own liver. It's extremely displeasing.

        • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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          2 years ago

          It has certainly been very revealing of peoples priorities and the power of capitalist hegemony - people fundamentally feel they cannot socialize without spending money. It is not enough to socialize for free in a park, you gotta buy a burger at the same time and also have your desires catered to by not wearing a mask and not feeling guilty about it.

        • Dingus_Khan [he/him, they/them]
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          2 years ago

          Totally agree, but it fucking sucks living where it's too cold to hang out outside for like a third of the year. Plus having to go into work and being the only wearing a mask. Like I can't be safe and socialize comfortably but I still need to endanger myself to pay rent :doomjak:

          • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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            2 years ago

            "feeling skittish"

            Bro it will literally disable you for life if you're healthy. If you go in with a compromised immune system you are utterly fucked.

            "Hey we're going to the guns get shot at you club where they shoot guns at you. There's only a 10% chance that you'll get shot with a gun and permanently crippled. Why are you being such a pain in the ass about this?"

            Like "Don't get upset when people ask you to hang out in a context that won't literally kill or disable them" is burying the bar near earth's molten iron core.

            • macabrett
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              2 years ago

              Thanks for sticking up for me on this. It feels weird to have someone try to twist negative experiences into positives for no real reason.

            • hahafuck [they/them]
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              2 years ago

              Bro it will literally disable you for life if you’re healthy.

              Leaving aside the truth of it, I don't think this is in line with most people's perception. But also I think the risk assessment is more betting they won't catch it than figuring they'll be fine if they do. My experience is more people overestimating how bad the infection is while vastly underestimating how contageous and ubiquitous it is

              • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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                2 years ago

                I think a lot of people are just fundamentally incapable of understanding their own mortality. Like they know disabled people exist, but either they've never seriously thought about what that means, or they're riddled with Calvinist brainworms and believe in a Just World.

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