Im "high masking" which means that people tell me that they like me but then flake out at the last second on plans for reasons they dont understand.
I think im just too intense for most people. I just wish people were more honest with me so i didnt waste so much time and energy.
Sending you all the love i can. I hope your battles get less lonely, you deserve people who care.
You ever just get told people find you weird for no reason? I get that shit all the time.
Everyone insists I'm totally normal and fine but then I clearly get treated differently. Actually, the moment I try and explain how I understand things or what my thought process is on something I immediatly get told I'm strange. Nah, I always got the same thing, I just hide the parts people find weird obsessively. So yeah, samesame
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Usually after people get a bit comfortable with me they just say I look angry or intimidating out of the blue lol
I am constantly being told or suggested that, and I have NO idea why, specifically. In my head, I'm acting completely normal
just wish people were more honest
God why is it so hard for people to just say what they’re feeling, especially if it’s negative! Being in that space where nobody is communicating (or they’re lying) and you just have to wait for something to become intolerable for anyone to actually say something is the worst.
I can't stand it! Or when they insist on trying to find common ground in situations where there is absolutely no need for it. That has to be a white supremacy culture thing more than a strictly neurotypical one. I refuse to believe that every culture in history has been this insufferable in their lack of directness and obsession for comfort.
I don't know. A lot of cultures expect the guest to be pampered even if you don't want to, and refusing the host's accommodations is a sign of disrespect. Think of being forced to eat the host's food even if you've already eaten, or refusing a gift 50 times symbolically before finally accepting it.
Same boat here, most people where I live are old money assholes and I don’t have anything I want to talk about in common with most of the people who aren’t
Damn I really feel that. My social life is conducted on discord with friends spread out across four different us states.
, i cant drop things ever, I cant not say something when someone says something racist or misogynistic or just stupid as hell.
Also feel this a lot
Idk how I manage this, but I’m even awkward and borderline socially incompetent on some discord servers 😀
my thing only works because it's a private discord server of largely neurodivergent people
I think it helps if you organically form a group of friends instead of joining an existing one. Whenever I join existing groups, it just becomes weird because I don't know anyone's sense of humor, or I hate it but can't say anything because I'm just a random guy who showed up and everyone else is tightly knitted.
not much to add but I definitely feel that
love and solidarity to you comrade :stalin-heart: hope you find some people who you click with and who appreciate you exactly as you are
