So I've been talking to a nice attractive lady and we've been flirting on and off and setting up a time to get together at her place , now I'm not stupid so with a hangout like that and the way we've been flirting I knew sex or something akin was in the cards. Then she says she wants to start an onlyfans and said we should try and make a vid (and that she's never done it before) and I thought :wut: at first and then said yes and played it off. She also seems to be open to something more then a hookup cause she still talks about wanting to get to know each other more and maybe have something so you can imagine why I was a little surprised.

I'm not judgmental and not totally opposed to the idea (don't want this to be any sort of struggle sessions/debate about onlyfans and sex work please). To be honest though I'm a little worried about "performing" with this new pressure 😅. Any advice ? If I like this person and don't just want sex should I say we should wait? Anyone have a similar experience? Part of me wonders why I'm even posting this but yeah what ya'll think Hex users 🤐.

  • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    Then she says she wants to start an onlyfans and said we should try and make a vid (and that she’s never done it before)

    I'm just going to say it, this is most likely a lie.

    Also I'll say if you are going to record yourself having sex or publish nude photos, hide your face or cover it up until you are absolutely sure you're comfortable with this. And cover up any unique tatoos or birthmarks. It's one thing to think you're comfortable with stuff like this being on the internet, it's another thing for it to actually be out there. And you don't want to regret it and then have all these photos and videos on the internet with your face attached to them.

    I personally would not do it, but if you want to, that's the advice I'd give. And most importantly, have fun

    • TheLegendaryCarrot23 [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      By all means I appreciate the honesty . And you know you definitely could be right. I would think it's 60% chance she lyin and 40% chance she ain't but she did a public Snapchat asking "should I start an onlyfans" which funnily enough sounds red flag typing it out but makes total sense, wants it to sell lmao(Christ lol). Either way I'm okay with a white lie like that at first as long as she tells me the truth later if we get to know each other.

      Thanks for the further advice too tho , no tattoos or like surgery marks or big birth marks but Im definitely gonna mask up. Wouldn't of if I didn't post here but that's wise . Cheers friend

      • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        Yeah just think things though first and all that, and have fun. And all the other advice I'd give is the same as I'd give for having casual sex, and sex in general. Use protection/get an STI test, enthusiastic consent from both you and your partner is always critically important. Remember that you can revoke consent at any time if you feel uncomfortable, or for whatever reason. And so can your partner, so respect that too. And enjoy it.

        Also you mentioned in another comment that this person is an older women, just make sure you're comfortable with the age gap and the dynamics from that.

        • TheLegendaryCarrot23 [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          I am and thank you for being so mature and real with that advice, remembering the rules and dynamics of consent and age is so important .

          Again thanks for the advice was like a warm blanket

          :comfy: