• kristina [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      i got 3000 messages over 3 months

      vast majority was just insanity. like asking me to come give them a blowjob at 3am, asking me tell them my address so they can come over at 3am, death threats, and so on. i went on maybe 5-8 dates total, all those guys were socialists but we werent compatible for various reasons

      did find my bf eventually but jesus was it a pain in the ass. whats wild is my bf is like 10/10 smoking hot with bulging abs and he would only get messages from 50 year old divorcees

        • kristina [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          i really dont see how people find me attractive. im of the opinion that straight men will fuck anything that is vaguely hourglass shaped

      • GoebbelsDeezNuts [any]
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        1 year ago

        vast majority was just insanity. like asking me to come give them a blowjob at 3am, asking me tell them my address so they can come over at 3am, death threats, and so on

        jfc I think I prefer the radio silence to this what the hell

        • kristina [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          on my old phone i have a ton of screenshots from back then. i mentioned i was a trans communist that didnt want hookups in my first sentence on my profile. then i listed basic do's and don'ts for talking to me, and a bunch of hobbies that i had. nothing very crazy, just stuff like saying 'lets talk about our hobbies!' or 'please dont be thirsty'.

          almost no one read what i said and proceeded to ask for sex straight up. or just say 'hi' and have nothing on their profile for me to go off of. then there were people that actually did have a conversation with me and then got angry when they realized i was trans even though it was in the first sentence. usually those types were weird evangelical people that were putting on a mask to try to get a date or 'convert' me.

          one said they were gonna hunt me down and kill me after superliking me and realized i was trans. i got a free subscription out of that and apparently he was automatically reported to the police :shrug-outta-hecks: i lived close to a college so i was a little concerned for a bit around guys my age because i was thinking 'did this guy see my profile and was he one of those guys?' when i was walking around campus

          and lets not even talk about how many weird gold star lesbians hit me up

    • GoebbelsDeezNuts [any]
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      1 year ago

      I remember talking to my best friend who was making fun of me as he watched me swipe right a million times not looking at a single profile. He said "that's kind of fucked up man" and I asked him how many people have matched with him and he said "zero" and we both had a good laugh.

    • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      it's why i don't even try :sadness-abysmal:

      i've been harassed and that's not a good time but i'd rather deal with that than being invisible.

    • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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      1 year ago

      Yeah online dating is pretty much turbo fucked for dudes because it's like 80% other dudes or bots on there.

      Women have to deal with a different problem, which is being spammed by a bunch of frustrated guys. Which can also be very bad.

    • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      Online dating is basically designed to turn young guys into misogynists. Young guys: you don't hate women, you hate capitalism and algorithms.

      • electerrific [none/use name]
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        1 year ago

        Well, women only preferring the top 5-10% of men isn't new and long predates dating apps and even capitalism.

        • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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          1 year ago

          Trying to rank people qualitatively doesn't work. Everyone has their own opinions of what they want in a partner. Sure, there are characteristics that are somewhat agreed upon, but those are culturally reinforced and can be changed. If women prefer the top 5-10% of men, as you say, then why do so many of them eventually "settle" and have families? Why are we still here to have this conversation when according to you 90-95% of men are supposedly left out each generation?

          Also:

          joined 10 days ago :farquaad-point: