Well if the unfairness ever gets you down just remember gay sex isn't something you are it's something you do and you can just go do it, with the way straight men are socialized it's probably too late for most to ever be able to share real romantic love with another man but that doesn't always factor into casually dating and the thrill of novel sex will get you surprisingly far physically even if it isn't something you typically fantasize about
no, not necessarily. being straight does not necessarily mean being so repulsed by the same sex that you can't possibly suffer through sex with them. you're just entirely wrong, theres nothing more to it
Well touché but as a bisexual I am allowed to erasure myself and you are actually doing bi erasure if you don't agree with everything I say and find me cute
Why is it bad advice? What bad things will happen if you go on a gay date and it's a flop? What bad things will happen if it isn't a flop and you arrange a second? What bad things will happen if that one goes well and you share a kiss? What bad things will happen if you go home together and put on a TV show you've both seen before? Where does a bad thing enter the mix unless it is flowing into it from your eyes?
Truthfully, awkwardness heartbreak is a good answer to any of the above. But that is a part of any dating. Just as with dating anyone, if you start slow and communicate your feelings freely there is no reason for anyone to get hurt. And plenty of people get even into their 30s or 40s convinced they are straight until they meet the right person and click with them. I'm just saying keep an open mind and don't live in fear
You think straight people should just get over themselves and have sex with people of a gender they're not attracted to. Since our sexuality is something to be discarded, why isn't yours?
gay sex isn’t something you are it’s something you do
Sure. And, even if it tastes like soap, I can have as much cilantro as I like.
it’s probably too late for most to ever be able to share real romantic love with another man
Real romantic love with anyone is difficult. But that's not really my gripe.
I'm more frustrated with how many women still have a hang up about "being a slut" for hooking up. The degree to which women feel shame over themselves, their bodies, their desires... Its both frustrating as a partner and painful to witness second hand.
So you just flat won't ever eat a taco with even a trace of cilantro? Like it fully ruins the flavour? Cause I get the soap thing but I still enjoy the taco overall
I was mostly just asking about actual tacos because I'm curious about the cilantro aversion, I didn't pick the cilantro analogy and don't find it apt, but I will also say its good if its breaking the concept of gender bianary that shit sucks.
Being gay is having sex on easy mode. It's so unfair.
Well if the unfairness ever gets you down just remember gay sex isn't something you are it's something you do and you can just go do it, with the way straight men are socialized it's probably too late for most to ever be able to share real romantic love with another man but that doesn't always factor into casually dating and the thrill of novel sex will get you surprisingly far physically even if it isn't something you typically fantasize about
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I think I made myself pretty clear
So should gay people have hetero sex?
If they feel like it. Many of them have / do sometimes.
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not necessarily.
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no, not necessarily. being straight does not necessarily mean being so repulsed by the same sex that you can't possibly suffer through sex with them. you're just entirely wrong, theres nothing more to it
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it doesn't have to be suffering. sex feels good regardless of who it's with.
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idk why you're being like this. you're just wrong. orgasms are pleasurable regardless of what causes them. thats all there is to it.
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disengage.
You aren't the person who decides what it's called when other people have sex sorry
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Well touché but as a bisexual I am allowed to erasure myself and you are actually doing bi erasure if you don't agree with everything I say and find me cute
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Why is it bad advice? What bad things will happen if you go on a gay date and it's a flop? What bad things will happen if it isn't a flop and you arrange a second? What bad things will happen if that one goes well and you share a kiss? What bad things will happen if you go home together and put on a TV show you've both seen before? Where does a bad thing enter the mix unless it is flowing into it from your eyes?
Truthfully, awkwardness heartbreak is a good answer to any of the above. But that is a part of any dating. Just as with dating anyone, if you start slow and communicate your feelings freely there is no reason for anyone to get hurt. And plenty of people get even into their 30s or 40s convinced they are straight until they meet the right person and click with them. I'm just saying keep an open mind and don't live in fear
So I can support conversion therapy, right? What bad things can come?
What the fuck
You think straight people should just get over themselves and have sex with people of a gender they're not attracted to. Since our sexuality is something to be discarded, why isn't yours?
What the fuck!
I'm gay and I do from time to time, but I do it very gayly
ok but I am only attracted to girls
Not to be presumptuous but every man or woman I have ever heard say this later went on to have gay sex
you probably have a lot of sampling bias
Sure. And, even if it tastes like soap, I can have as much cilantro as I like.
Real romantic love with anyone is difficult. But that's not really my gripe.
I'm more frustrated with how many women still have a hang up about "being a slut" for hooking up. The degree to which women feel shame over themselves, their bodies, their desires... Its both frustrating as a partner and painful to witness second hand.
Guys are just allowed to be horny. Girls aren't.
So you just flat won't ever eat a taco with even a trace of cilantro? Like it fully ruins the flavour? Cause I get the soap thing but I still enjoy the taco overall
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I was mostly just asking about actual tacos because I'm curious about the cilantro aversion, I didn't pick the cilantro analogy and don't find it apt, but I will also say its good if its breaking the concept of gender bianary that shit sucks.
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Not knowingly.
I mean, I usually notice it and pick it out, then finish the taco.
Me, bi and still alone and never had sex in my mid 20s: :angery: