go and take a hike
literally
go hiking
(i dunno shit helps me, but just for that time :sadness:)
Me on a hike: it will be okay. life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to experience. i am not in nature, i am nature. anything can be conquered.
Me at literally any other time:
going outside is therapeutic for me too! i try to get out into nature at least once a week for multiple hours whether hiking or just vibing.
Hiking is so wonderful and if I don't get out on a regular enough basis My mental heath fucking plummets.
If you can somehow make your internal monologue into a friend of yours everything gets easier.
I played a ton of video games as a child until this occurred naturally, the downside is that my internal monologue now gets quite bored without some cliche puzzle or danger. Super juiced when either of those things is present though
I always think back to being a kid and reading that His Dark Materials series and the way I pined terribly for having a daemon from those books. In reality it's probably as simple as a mental exercise where I talk myself through a problem with a fellow "me" whose welfare is tied to my own but who isn't exactly me.
You can't help someone who doesn't want help, even if they're ODing consistently. Support doesn't mean controlling them.
The only thing a narcissist respects is firm boundary holding but they will keep pushing, so either cut them out permanently or be prepared to hold your ground
Do inner child work to find and address trauma from childhood
Grieve and process the childhood and family you never had. Feel the feelings that were repressed
You can't help someone who doesn't want help, even if they're ODing consistently.
Hard won lesson. Took me forever.
i've seen posts from people who actually go to therapy saying their therapist basically rehashes the "serenity prayer" when it comes to things like climate change anxiety. gotta find one of those based, not-liberal, not-a-nerd therapists.
serenity prayer
spoiler
grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference
This will be contentious but I think that is good advice. Quoting Matt Christman:
Your anxiety is not secretly powering some machinery of resistance, you're just giving yourself a tummy ache.
As socialists the world presents us with a bounty of tools for inflicting psychological self-harm. We can become perversely attached to this practice. If you are taking the rage you feel and channeling it into real-world organizing & action, then great. If you just sit in your apartment staring at the ceiling hoping for some piece of info to be the one that tips you over the edge then well... that isn't really a good way to live your one life.
my therapist is a pretty cool younger guy. we shit talk capitalism all the time and he laughed when i said voting for joe biden was voting for 99% hitler. they're out there but i get they're not common.
but yeah, focusing on things you can actually affect helps. kinda.
There's more leftist therapists out there than you might think. The field inherently butts up against the injustice of capitalism if the therapist is worth their salt.
how does one even find a good therapist. I went to one when i was a teen because my mom's friend recommended him, but i think he's retired now
It maybe cynical, but you are bright enough to know it’s not free.
Well nothing is free, my therapist was paid for by taxes. And they made very little money, but they were excellent. Not all therapists are just trying to fleece people if that's what you are implying.
Is your point that therapists don’t work for free? Because like….. yeah. I don’t think anyone here is under the impression that their therapist is helping them just for the hell of it.
but you are bright enough to know
Condescending too? Who could've seen that coming.
I was pretty blessed, I had one of those based therapists. I had no idea how lucky I was til hearing people's experiences with bad therapists. I would complain about how overwhelmed I felt by political stuff, racism, capitalism etc (in 2020) and she would say I was correct to feel that way and just gave me tools to help deal with it when the feeling was too much. I would talk about wanting to protest or take bigger actions and she would encourage me, suggesting even joining a politically active org or starting my own.
I got lucky to find a socialist therapist who now uses the phrase doomerism when I get in that mood
Yeah I got that one all the time from a therapist; had a great one before that, but they retired. But, yeah, it's seriously bullshit.
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TikTok screenshot of a white woman making coffee with text overlaid: I'm wondering if therapy is actually unhealthy for me ... I told her how I literally have psycho meltdowns ... like throwing things/screaming and she says "your emotions and responses are valid" are they tho? You don't think maybe I should just get a grip? Idk
"All emotions are valid, all behaviors are not" is like the prologue to starting therapy, how could she miss this tutorial level mantra
Some therapists kind of skip the explanations and jump straight into applying fixes. I personally don’t vibe well with that. It fucks me up and leaves me feeling lost.
You want to love everyone, but not everyone deserves the same level of love
Be kind and patient with yourself (WARNING EASIER SAID THAN DONE)
My uncle and mom have been seriously stressing me out lately. I won't go into too much detail but my mom simply won't accept that she can't live alone anymore, and is constantly playing the victim despite me putting her up in a top of the line retirement community - and my uncle, well he's also kind of my boss and work shit has ruined what our relationship used to be.
Anyway my therapist really changed the way I look at the whole situation. It's like they're kids and they gotta be allowed to think they're getting what they want from time to time even though we're doing what I was gonna do all along.
my mental state is stable but not really . hoping to get better care in the next few months
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
Things like prioritizing your body’s needs and caring about yourself are habits and skills that can be practiced. I’m significantly better at these things than I was a year ago because I get new exercises every week and I work hard at them. I also have the insurance and mental bandwidth to do all of that, which I’m lucky to have.
