idk if it's because I'm autistically naive or if it's because I'm old and words meant different things back in the day, but I was under the impression that the Q part covered everything that wasn't vanilla cishet, and that's why "Queer" was synonymous with "weird."
so kink just seems like an inherent part of it to me, because I thought Pride was about being out and proud about being Different from the vanilla cishet mainstream
but also I'm just some rural yokel, what do I know
It was the + before the + iirc. It meant a lot of things, queer, genderqueer, questioning. It was meant as an umbrella term, then people added an umbrella on top of the umbrella.
I don't want to get in the middle of this kink at pride discussion, much less define what queerness is, but I will just say that I am a very kinky cishet guy. I wouldn't identify as queer just because I'm kinky/nonvanilla. That would seem deeply problematic to me if I did it because I don't think my kinks queer my sexual orientation, in fact I kinda feel like my kinks in totality reinforce my cishetness. I can see how queerness and kink are mutually inclusive but I wouldn't think that they are mutually exhaustive.
I don't go to any of the kink-specific festivals or rallies though. I feel like they're kinda cringe? Maybe it's just me. I went to one once but got bored because it wasn't kinky enough for me so I left and went to the library. I guess I expected a kinky orgy or something, I don't know.
idk if it's because I'm autistically naive or if it's because I'm old and words meant different things back in the day, but I was under the impression that the Q part covered everything that wasn't vanilla cishet, and that's why "Queer" was synonymous with "weird."
so kink just seems like an inherent part of it to me, because I thought Pride was about being out and proud about being Different from the vanilla cishet mainstream
but also I'm just some rural yokel, what do I know
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I'm a solid millennial and queer and kink are basically the same thing in all of my circles too so yeah basically this.
I think the queer is short for genderqueer rather than just generalised queer/weird.
It was the + before the + iirc. It meant a lot of things, queer, genderqueer, questioning. It was meant as an umbrella term, then people added an umbrella on top of the umbrella.
I don't want to get in the middle of this kink at pride discussion, much less define what queerness is, but I will just say that I am a very kinky cishet guy. I wouldn't identify as queer just because I'm kinky/nonvanilla. That would seem deeply problematic to me if I did it because I don't think my kinks queer my sexual orientation, in fact I kinda feel like my kinks in totality reinforce my cishetness. I can see how queerness and kink are mutually inclusive but I wouldn't think that they are mutually exhaustive.
I don't go to any of the kink-specific festivals or rallies though. I feel like they're kinda cringe? Maybe it's just me. I went to one once but got bored because it wasn't kinky enough for me so I left and went to the library. I guess I expected a kinky orgy or something, I don't know.
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