All the time! Also, this was way easier to do after transitioning. I found women are usually more able to be open anyway. No idea if it's been easier cause of hormones or girl-socialization or whatever but it is really nice!
The first time I did, I remember feeling like "oh my god, I have no idea how she'll take this" cause of course it was always a little chancey pre-transition with my friends. I text my friends if I'm feeling down, or use the group chat, or talk to them when I see them. They do the same with me.
Emotional support from women? Eh every few months or so. With men? A little bit more often, or at least venting with no other desire for emotional support. I'm also emotionally stunted though
With women? Hmm. Not as much as with men I think? I have never really thought about it though, I might need some time to wrap my head around what "emotional support" actually is as I've never really consciously registered that I'm having an emotional support conversation. It's just something that's normal?
Multiple times weekly, my friends and coworkers are the best support system I could have asked for.
In general it's a chance to have a shoulder to cry on, maybe someone to turn my perspective and see the brighter side of a situation (I'm prone to doom spiraling).
The only time it really goes poorly is when it's issues related to my transition, the cis friends I have just don't get it, and they try to be supportive but my experience is so alien to them they usually can't.
Yeah it actually weirdly suprised me when my cis SO said they couldn't really understand what the big deal was about my gender for me, and they said they wouldn't care if they were a guy or a girl, it's just not important to them. I guess our experience is pretty strange and alien to cis people which is weirdly validating... before my egg cracked, even then I felt like I understood/identified with trans people because I had always kinda wanted to be a girl but just told myself it was impossible
probably about once a week, more if you count randomly venting about my poly relationship to whoever is within earshot (it's not a healthy relationship).
I'd say emotional support is an important part of my life, and helps me cope with many things on a regular basis. Being able to share my feelings and have an emotional outlet is something that has helped me a lot over the years, and it still does when times are tough. When I'm feeling sad, I can always send a message to a friend who will listen, and vice versa.
Nowadays I can't imagine bottling up, and yet it's what I did for years before I accepted myself and transitioned. I used to be uncomfortable at the thought of exposing any of my vulnerabilities, which in turn also made me not seek help for mental health problems I was dealing with at the time.
As a former female?
Only ever seeked emotional support from female family members.
with women? almost never, i don't have women friends anymore . nb tho so you know.
I didn't want to lump women and enbies together so we need to wait for a third person to make a post
There could actually be a lot of different perspectives on this subject. Support from opposite gender, NB support, if it's different for trans and cis people, etc...
yeah i've really enjoyed the trans perspectives shared here already
Not very often tbh, I just don't really know many people I'd be comfortable doing that with. My online friends probably hear from me about this kind of stuff more than anyone else and they're great but it's definitely not the same vibe as irl.
unusually i think i did this a lot more as a boy than i do as a girl
circumstance probably plays a lot into it, but honestly i just don't have much emotional turmoil anymore
