I've often wondered if a lack of age-appropriate socialization with girls is why some boys grow up to be incels. I had a childhood friend who had pretty much the same school social circles, non-school social circles, hobbies, church, you name it. But he was an only child with no female cousins. I have a younger sister and a ton of younger female cousins. He grew up with some strange ideas about girls. I remember constantly telling him - right from elementary school - when he was being weird about them.
For much of my teen years I only had female peer socialization once or twice a week. By my mid-20s, the slight majority of my friends have been women.
So YMMV, although I suspect I might be the exception. Or maybe there's lots of factors- personal gender identity, background culture, family composition, parenting style, sexuality...
I had a friend who had gone to boys only schools all his life, doesn't have any female relatives other than his mother. One time he sat down and asked me how I talk to girls so easily. I had to explain to him that girls are like boys in that they are human beings. I've never once seen him talk to a girl. He's 20
I grew up mainly around my mom & my sister, but that has not really done anything to improve my ability to relate to, or engage with women on anything.
I did also spend like 90% of my non-school time shut up in my room, playing videogames, cause no friends & my mom drank a lot.
I've often wondered if a lack of age-appropriate socialization with girls is why some boys grow up to be incels. I had a childhood friend who had pretty much the same school social circles, non-school social circles, hobbies, church, you name it. But he was an only child with no female cousins. I have a younger sister and a ton of younger female cousins. He grew up with some strange ideas about girls. I remember constantly telling him - right from elementary school - when he was being weird about them.
For much of my teen years I only had female peer socialization once or twice a week. By my mid-20s, the slight majority of my friends have been women.
So YMMV, although I suspect I might be the exception. Or maybe there's lots of factors- personal gender identity, background culture, family composition, parenting style, sexuality...
I had a friend who had gone to boys only schools all his life, doesn't have any female relatives other than his mother. One time he sat down and asked me how I talk to girls so easily. I had to explain to him that girls are like boys in that they are human beings. I've never once seen him talk to a girl. He's 20
I grew up mainly around my mom & my sister, but that has not really done anything to improve my ability to relate to, or engage with women on anything.
I did also spend like 90% of my non-school time shut up in my room, playing videogames, cause no friends & my mom drank a lot.