I don't wanna sound puritan but I do have to wonder how much readily available porn is influencing younger people. They've had porn in their face, two clicks away, every day of their life.
Back in my day you had to find a discarded playboy in the woods or try to unscramble Cinemax
Maybe all the porn is just more efficient than finding a partner, maybe people have different perceptions of what sex is like. No idea, but there has to be something about instantaneous porn access that's frying our little lizard brains, right?
I do think porn is having some unhealthy side effects. I don't think one should get too alarmed about porn luring people into doing depraved and unwholesome forms of sex. People are creative, they have been doing kinky stuff for as long as there has been people. Instead of demonising smut featuring anything outside of the missionary position we ought to focus our attention on consent and mutual respect.
What I do think are problems with porn is how it sets unrealistic expectations for what sex is going to be like. Both in regards to looks and with regards to the act itself. If people think they're going to have huge ballooning tits and/or cocks in order to be attractive, that they have to be able to fuck like jackhammers right from the beginning or that nothing ever goes wrong, doesn't feel as good as expected then they're going to be disappointed with having completely normal sex.
Another danger is how porn under capitalism is commodifying sex. It's all about OnlyFans models hustling for subscribers and consumers being little pricks who feel entitled to getting off because they paid good money. Neither is fostering healthy relationships.
It's fried so many brains. The stuff that they promote on the front page of the biggest tube sites is just gross, from what I can remember before I stopped using them. Get a VPN and just look at the front page of Pornhub or any other big site. So much incest and random violent behaviour in modern mainstream porn.
god, it's so racist too, isn't it? I personally can't stomach even a few seconds of normal pornography, I can't imagine watching some kind of race fetish incest hypnosis or whatever other slurry of weird pathologies
Holy shit that stuff is INSANE! If you hop around to other countries with a VPN, you'll see a lot more "normal" stuff, but the US based sites are just a nauseating deluge of icestual rape fantasies. I have a hunch that a lot of it is driven by the sexual pathologies of evangelicals who were on that purity culture boom in the late 90's/early 2000's. No evidence, just a hunch; I really feel like that shit broke people brains.
I think the influence of dating/social media apps on porn UX is something that needs to be talked about more in general. There is something about being able to just swipe through videos for the exact dopamine hit you're looking for that is just super sinister... Your sexual preferences should not be guided by an algorithm. That's some Clockwork Orange shit.
yeah, but this is a survey of men who have lived their entire life with a porn machine in their pocket. The kids who never knew the pre-internet days are adults now.
i literally dont even know how to date and im approaching 24. i dont know where i would go to find someone to date. the only people i ever see are coworkers. im not going to a bar because i dont want covid. ive tried dating apps or whatever but they suck for women because there are so many awful guys they have to sort through to try to find anyone worth talking to and they suck for men because i have to put on some kind of act to stand out from all those awful guys. the kinds of people i want to date are largely not on dating apps. and they're also not at bars anyway. i live in a small city without shit going on in the way of hobby activities.
it just feels dead. all i can do is work and sleep and play video games. no end in sight.
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I don't wanna sound puritan but I do have to wonder how much readily available porn is influencing younger people. They've had porn in their face, two clicks away, every day of their life.
Back in my day you had to find a discarded playboy in the woods or try to unscramble Cinemax
Maybe all the porn is just more efficient than finding a partner, maybe people have different perceptions of what sex is like. No idea, but there has to be something about instantaneous porn access that's frying our little lizard brains, right?
I do think porn is having some unhealthy side effects. I don't think one should get too alarmed about porn luring people into doing depraved and unwholesome forms of sex. People are creative, they have been doing kinky stuff for as long as there has been people. Instead of demonising smut featuring anything outside of the missionary position we ought to focus our attention on consent and mutual respect.
What I do think are problems with porn is how it sets unrealistic expectations for what sex is going to be like. Both in regards to looks and with regards to the act itself. If people think they're going to have huge ballooning tits and/or cocks in order to be attractive, that they have to be able to fuck like jackhammers right from the beginning or that nothing ever goes wrong, doesn't feel as good as expected then they're going to be disappointed with having completely normal sex.
Another danger is how porn under capitalism is commodifying sex. It's all about OnlyFans models hustling for subscribers and consumers being little pricks who feel entitled to getting off because they paid good money. Neither is fostering healthy relationships.
It's fried so many brains. The stuff that they promote on the front page of the biggest tube sites is just gross, from what I can remember before I stopped using them. Get a VPN and just look at the front page of Pornhub or any other big site. So much incest and random violent behaviour in modern mainstream porn.
god, it's so racist too, isn't it? I personally can't stomach even a few seconds of normal pornography, I can't imagine watching some kind of race fetish incest hypnosis or whatever other slurry of weird pathologies
Holy shit that stuff is INSANE! If you hop around to other countries with a VPN, you'll see a lot more "normal" stuff, but the US based sites are just a nauseating deluge of icestual rape fantasies. I have a hunch that a lot of it is driven by the sexual pathologies of evangelicals who were on that purity culture boom in the late 90's/early 2000's. No evidence, just a hunch; I really feel like that shit broke people brains.
Yeah because of mainstream porn I think a lot of people consider choking the passive partner without consent to be "normal"
I think the influence of dating/social media apps on porn UX is something that needs to be talked about more in general. There is something about being able to just swipe through videos for the exact dopamine hit you're looking for that is just super sinister... Your sexual preferences should not be guided by an algorithm. That's some Clockwork Orange shit.
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yeah, but this is a survey of men who have lived their entire life with a porn machine in their pocket. The kids who never knew the pre-internet days are adults now.
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i literally dont even know how to date and im approaching 24. i dont know where i would go to find someone to date. the only people i ever see are coworkers. im not going to a bar because i dont want covid. ive tried dating apps or whatever but they suck for women because there are so many awful guys they have to sort through to try to find anyone worth talking to and they suck for men because i have to put on some kind of act to stand out from all those awful guys. the kinds of people i want to date are largely not on dating apps. and they're also not at bars anyway. i live in a small city without shit going on in the way of hobby activities.
it just feels dead. all i can do is work and sleep and play video games. no end in sight.
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