She's a full foot shorter than me and she dresses punk and kinda masc and emo, has a pink mohawk she's growing out into a deathhawk, she's a huge weeb and nerd and we're into a lot of the same stuff, she makes her own cider and leathercraft and even blacksmiths sometimes.

Spent the night at her house after work Monday night, then spent the entire day with her. Cooked breakfast for us, then we took her dog out to a park so her mom could see pilates clients, then met one of her friends for drinks and some card games while we finished watching Scott Pilgrim Takes Off, then went to bed together one last time before I had to leave at midnight. All told we spent over 24 hours together and it was great and I'm super happy and I feel like she was the exact type of person I was looking for.

So it is worth it to go out there and use the stupid apps and try to date people because you might get lucky and find someone great. It can happen

you too can go from sicko-wistful to sicko-fem sicko-flipped

  • TankieTanuki [he/him]
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    4 days ago

    a full foot shorter

    Is Hexbear ready to talk about height gaps in relationships? What if you were to play 1v1 basketball? That's a massive power differential.

      • TankieTanuki [he/him]
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        edit-2
        4 days ago

        Hm. thonk If her defense is adequate then I guess your relationship isn't so problematic.

  • Nakoichi [he/him]
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    4 days ago

    whatever you do, do not tell her about hexbear lol or do whatever I aint yer dad

    • RNAi [he/him]
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      4 days ago

      Also, don't bang her dad, nor your dad.

    • FourteenEyes [he/him]
      hexagon
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      4 days ago

      get gf step one: "there's this website I go to every day that has a whole bunch of Stalin emojis and we joke about never having sex" (she is in the waiting room for her audit at the IRS due to being in arrears on her late husband's funeral costs)

  • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
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    4 days ago

    She sounds like she might be as awesome as you are 🤩

    "stoked" and "elated" do not even begin to cover my feelings about this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ cheering wildly for you

  • Evilphd666 [he/him, comrade/them]
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    4 days ago

    This is why the admins are shutting the place down. It's for you to logout and violate your Volcel oath. volcel-judge

    cuddle (very happy for you. Congrats!)

    • FourteenEyes [he/him]
      hexagon
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      4 days ago

      hexbear-chapochat

      :volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge::volcel-judge:

      HOLD THE LINE

      bloomer

  • SoylentSnake [he/him, they/them]
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    4 days ago

    omg IIRC last i heard from ya about this you were feeling pretty hopeless abt meeting someone, i am extremely happy for you bratan!! heart-sickle

    • FourteenEyes [he/him]
      hexagon
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      4 days ago

      The depression and anxiety and emotional dysregulation and whatnot can make me a bit melodramatic at times. I've heard it's actually a thing with ADHD, catastrophizing because that's a more compelling situation than shit being kinda bad but in a normal way

      got the best brains over here galaxy-brain

    • FourteenEyes [he/him]
      hexagon
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      4 days ago

      a union is only truly blessed when an owl comes by and pisses on it

        • FourteenEyes [he/him]
          hexagon
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          4 days ago

          Don't shit-talk yourself, be honest about what you're looking for, try to look your best in pics and upload ones of you doing stuff (not fishing) or hanging out with people to indicate you are open to socialization. Just be chill. And be prepared for a lot of disappointment before finding any decent dates

          • sevenapples@lemmygrad.ml
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            3 days ago

            This may be a trivial question, but did you just ask friends to take a picture of you while you were hanging out? I don't upload pics to social media so I'm kinda embarrassed to do that, but I suppose there's no other way?

            As for pics of doing stuff, I wish I did "photogenic" stuff :/ Closest I can think of is a pic of me reading a book, is that pretentious?

            • FourteenEyes [he/him]
              hexagon
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              3 days ago

              I had a picture of me with my coworker and other trivia night friends on there, plus a shot of me at the Space Needle with a friend

              At some point you have to touch grass touch-grass