Idk. I know people who've killed people. It happens. Yeah, it sorta changes how you look at someone but it happens.
You gotta make your own judgements, but sometimes that line about "if the truth can destroy a thing let it be destroyed" applies to friendships with people who are friends with an image of you and not the person.
On the other hand, some secrets are best taken to the grave.
I guess it'd depend one what you want to achiebe. oD you think sharing whatever happened would take some weight off of your shoulders? Would you feel more comfortable if people who were your friends knew about this thing that obviously was an important, likely upsetting part of your life?
Just because you don't let everyone know something doesn't mean you're actively keeping secrets and should feel bad.
I took a huge shit today and me not telling everyone that isn't because I'm keeping secrets or hiding it, it just isnt for everyone who isn't reading this comment to know
I mean that's legit. Trust is fragile and precious, the uncertainty of not knowing how people whose opinions you value will react is a very reasonable thing to be concerned about.
Idk. I know people who've killed people. It happens. Yeah, it sorta changes how you look at someone but it happens.
You gotta make your own judgements, but sometimes that line about "if the truth can destroy a thing let it be destroyed" applies to friendships with people who are friends with an image of you and not the person.
On the other hand, some secrets are best taken to the grave.
I guess it'd depend one what you want to achiebe. oD you think sharing whatever happened would take some weight off of your shoulders? Would you feel more comfortable if people who were your friends knew about this thing that obviously was an important, likely upsetting part of your life?
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think it's easier to just say it than to do the gymnastics to find the right analogy here. it's hard to give advice without the real context.
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The right play would probably have been to make an anonymous throwaway account and just asked directly
Hope it worked out for you though :)
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Just because you don't let everyone know something doesn't mean you're actively keeping secrets and should feel bad.
I took a huge shit today and me not telling everyone that isn't because I'm keeping secrets or hiding it, it just isnt for everyone who isn't reading this comment to know
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I mean that's legit. Trust is fragile and precious, the uncertainty of not knowing how people whose opinions you value will react is a very reasonable thing to be concerned about.