But remain yourself. We all annoy most people and get along with some people. If you annoy some people, don’t change yourself to suit them. Stay true to yourself.
But you have to find your people so be social. Go to events, join clubs, play sports, etc. you’ll find your people.
The secret to getting along with people is that most people are interested in their own shit more than your shit. This doesn’t mean disowning your own shit since it’s great to have your own thing going on that makes you an interesting person (to some people) but the key is to focus on others more than yourself. It’s a balance. It doesn’t mean putting other people first or changing yourself to conform to their preferences. That will make you unhappy, it will make you seem false, it will make you less interesting since you’ll seem hollow, and it means you’ll attract people who aren’t actually interested in you. But even among “your people” you have to extend them your focus and attention.
to use a bazinga metaphor: Paying attention to people is like playing medic, in that for some reason nearly no one likes doing it but if you do everyone will love you. that doesn't mean you have to play medic all the time, just that you should probably support your medic and maybe take one for the team and play it when one isn't online (or take one for the team when one IS online! medics need support too!)
... or let go of the idea that everyone has to be interested in the same things, and allow people to just communicate autistically which works better too. embrace full soldier team rushes
to use a bazinga metaphor: Paying attention to people is like playing medic, in that for some reason nearly no one likes doing it but if you do everyone will love you. that doesn't mean you have to play medic all the time, just that you should probably support your medic and maybe take one for the team and play it when one isn't online (or take one for the team when one IS online! medics need support too!)
... or let go of the idea that everyone has to be interested in the same things, and allow people to just communicate autistically which works
bettertoo. embrace full soldier team rushes