Hi Chapos throwaway for obvious reasons.

I’ve managed to buy an apartment, two bedrooms. I live in it, but I rent the other room out. Is it unethical for me to hide that I’m the owner?

I don’t really lie-lie, like if I’m asked straight up I’ll answer, but I’ll avoid it if possible.

It’s mostly because it creates an odd power dynamic and I’d rather have a flatmate than a tenant if that makes sense.

Reason I bought is I don’t want to deal with landlords, obviously.

Do I get the wall?

  • GuiltyConscience [he/him]
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    2 days ago

    I want to be able to ask my flatmate to not put dishes in the sink without it being a landlord/tenant dynamic.

    It’s not the money/shelter trade that bugs me. It’s the lick-my-ass/or-be-homeless setup that I don’t like.

    Also just to be clear I don’t outright lie, but I don’t tell unless I’m explicitly asked.

    • kivork [he/them]@lemmygrad.ml
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      2 days ago

      If you don't like the "lick-my-ass/or-be-homeless setup", try not being a landlord.

      I'm such a smol bean landlord, pwease forgive me hexbear, I just have to exploit another human being for my own financial gain but it gives me a sad uwu

      • Hexboare [they/them]
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        2 days ago

        I think it's worse because the landlord is going to be unwittingly surveilling the tenant whenever they're there. Like he can just boot them if they do something he doesn't enjoy, whereas there's a lot more leeway (rightly and wrongly) with a roommate that you can't just kick out.

        • GuiltyConscience [he/him]
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          2 days ago

          Exactly. That’s not a good vibe, and no amount of ‘just trust me bro’ gets rid of it. (Especially if you proactively bring it up “just so you know, I can make you homeless but dw”.)

        • kivork [he/them]@lemmygrad.ml
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          2 days ago

          I bought such a tiny eensy weensy property and now I have to use it to exploit someone. Otherwise someone will exploit me. I'm so tiny and smol I can't handle the exploitation that you all do, that's why I have to exploit you all. Pwease, no more bad feelings, thank you!

    • Hexboare [they/them]
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      2 days ago

      Then you should communicate that with the people there, because surely the relationship is going to be pretty fucked if they find out you're the owner?

      I don't know the cohort of people renting the room but I would think I'd find out pretty quickly and I think it would be hard to not disclose without lying. However I do a title search before renting so maybe I'm not the best example.