Ye i'm sorry if i've been needlessly angry in other comments. This whole thing has brought out a lot of passive-aggressiveness and vitriol, and it's been tiring. Seeing it here once more made me angry again, and I don't like being angry for this kinda thing.
Maybe i'm too optimistic but I honestly like this outcome. Probably the best compromise we can get for now on the pronouns, and opening up a topic that probably would have created tension anyway, so resolving that tension now is good.
Honestly what I feel is the biggest lesson here for me is that communication is, as always, a messy thing. Bad faith, passive-aggressiveness and other such things are extremely unproductive, and we're used to employ those tactics against bad actors/wreckers/chuds so everyone is used to a default defensive stance, which complicates things.
Aww, thank you. Good faith posting like this is why solidarity works.
Ye i'm sorry if i've been needlessly angry in other comments. This whole thing has brought out a lot of passive-aggressiveness and vitriol, and it's been tiring. Seeing it here once more made me angry again, and I don't like being angry for this kinda thing. Maybe i'm too optimistic but I honestly like this outcome. Probably the best compromise we can get for now on the pronouns, and opening up a topic that probably would have created tension anyway, so resolving that tension now is good.
Honestly what I feel is the biggest lesson here for me is that communication is, as always, a messy thing. Bad faith, passive-aggressiveness and other such things are extremely unproductive, and we're used to employ those tactics against bad actors/wreckers/chuds so everyone is used to a default defensive stance, which complicates things.
Anyway love y'all reading this.