Yeah I know dating apps bad etc

I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.

The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?

  • GaveUp [she/her]
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    24 days ago

    Wait I thought you were bi, why not the women if you are :(

    • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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      23 days ago

      Well I'm always interested in women but I've always dated women. Would like to try dating men. Who all seem very interested until they have to do literally any kind of thinking or work... Thing though is I don't accept this as expecting too much, I've done this stuff many times in my life when I was a guy. And it wasn't hard.

      That being said I think I exist in a weird spot right now. I think some guys see me really as like a fem boy or something and are acting out some kind of chaser or gay fantasies, and as a result don't want to be seen with me in public. Or my vibe is a bit too masc for them... it's like I can talk to lots of people but nothing ever happens unless I make it happen. No one else is making it happen at all...

      Ofc it's very easy to meet other trans women. It's now more difficult with cis women though, something I've noticed. I don't really get that but whatever lol

      • GaveUp [she/her]
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        23 days ago

        It's now more difficult with cis women though, something I've noticed

        Same, though I'd imagine a lot of that is just there is way more cishet women than sapphic women. I've had way more interest with bi/lesbian enbies though, I feel like they typically only date other queer people

        • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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          23 days ago

          Oh yes part of it is that there are less lesbians however, I have over the past 8 months essentially had 0 interest from lesbians or even bi cis women. A little surprising tbh to me at least, I thought I would be an ideal for bi women

          • GaveUp [she/her]
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            23 days ago

            Come to the bay area girlie, your scene is weird

                    • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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                      23 days ago

                      Veeeerrry interesting. Yeah I hear a similar thing from other places from my friends. I mean, cis lesbians here are cool too it's just I don't think I'm very seen as a woman so there's just no interest. I need to do voice training lol I'm pretty sure that's seriously hindering me at this point

                        • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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                          22 days ago

                          Yeah I just feel super aimless with voice training. I'm still not out at work so I just end up having to go back to the man voice for like 8 hours a day, and I have a bit of a mental breakdown when I hear my own voice so my voice training has been fruitless. On top of that I do have a naturally pretty masculine voice, it doesn't exist in the middle or anything where I just have to make a few adjustments. And the way I talk I think is pretty masculine.

                          However I finally got myself together and I have a consult for a voice coach this Friday so yeah. Hoping someone can help me with this