Yeah I know dating apps bad etc

I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.

The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?

  • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
    ·
    12 hours ago

    Well I'm always interested in women but I've always dated women. Would like to try dating men. Who all seem very interested until they have to do literally any kind of thinking or work... Thing though is I don't accept this as expecting too much, I've done this stuff many times in my life when I was a guy. And it wasn't hard.

    That being said I think I exist in a weird spot right now. I think some guys see me really as like a fem boy or something and are acting out some kind of chaser or gay fantasies, and as a result don't want to be seen with me in public. Or my vibe is a bit too masc for them... it's like I can talk to lots of people but nothing ever happens unless I make it happen. No one else is making it happen at all...

    Ofc it's very easy to meet other trans women. It's now more difficult with cis women though, something I've noticed. I don't really get that but whatever lol

    • GaveUp [she/her]
      ·
      edit-2
      12 hours ago

      It's now more difficult with cis women though, something I've noticed

      Same, though I'd imagine a lot of that is just there is way more cishet women than sapphic women. I've had way more interest with bi/lesbian enbies though, I feel like they typically only date other queer people

      • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
        ·
        12 hours ago

        Oh yes part of it is that there are less lesbians however, I have over the past 8 months essentially had 0 interest from lesbians or even bi cis women. A little surprising tbh to me at least, I thought I would be an ideal for bi women

        • GaveUp [she/her]
          ·
          11 hours ago

          Come to the bay area girlie, your scene is weird

                • GaveUp [she/her]
                  ·
                  edit-2
                  11 hours ago

                  real, though the cis lesbians in SF are wonderful tbh, the cis bi ones are all the chasers and queerphobic

                  • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
                    ·
                    11 hours ago

                    Veeeerrry interesting. Yeah I hear a similar thing from other places from my friends. I mean, cis lesbians here are cool too it's just I don't think I'm very seen as a woman so there's just no interest. I need to do voice training lol I'm pretty sure that's seriously hindering me at this point

                    • GaveUp [she/her]
                      ·
                      edit-2
                      9 hours ago

                      oh yea, voice training is super important. I've jokingly asked a few lesbians if they wanted to hear my deep voice and they were just like please no I don't want to hear that