Redditors' self-defeating attitude when it comes to women is so cringey and tiring to deal with. I say that as a person who was exactly like that when I was still a man.
Yeah it’s pretty bad. It’s very obvious that it’s a mostly male space, and that many of them have pretty much no women in their life at all. Like, posts on life pro tips about how you should have tampons in your house if you have a girlfriend that stays over. Like...yeah? Seems like such a big tell.
As a guy I have tried to ask about this with my female friends in a genuine attempt to understand and to help be on the lookout for when uncomfortable situations arise in the future, but the impression I get is that some women completely repress the unwanted or uninvited attention they receive from men, to the point where they're like, "what do you mean?" That kind of response made me pretty sad to hear, not only because I didn't learn how to be more helpful in those situations, but also from the psychology I was left to infer behind it. Naturally I have since dropped the subject with those friends.
All that just to say, not all women are comfortable talking about the subject with their guy friends, or perhaps even acknowledging the issue out loud to them. Forums like this can be helpful to the population of men who want to help, but lack knowledge that might seem obvious or basic to anyone who's been on the other side of the interaction.
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Redditors' self-defeating attitude when it comes to women is so cringey and tiring to deal with. I say that as a person who was exactly like that when I was still a man.
Yeah it’s pretty bad. It’s very obvious that it’s a mostly male space, and that many of them have pretty much no women in their life at all. Like, posts on life pro tips about how you should have tampons in your house if you have a girlfriend that stays over. Like...yeah? Seems like such a big tell.
As a guy I have tried to ask about this with my female friends in a genuine attempt to understand and to help be on the lookout for when uncomfortable situations arise in the future, but the impression I get is that some women completely repress the unwanted or uninvited attention they receive from men, to the point where they're like, "what do you mean?" That kind of response made me pretty sad to hear, not only because I didn't learn how to be more helpful in those situations, but also from the psychology I was left to infer behind it. Naturally I have since dropped the subject with those friends.
All that just to say, not all women are comfortable talking about the subject with their guy friends, or perhaps even acknowledging the issue out loud to them. Forums like this can be helpful to the population of men who want to help, but lack knowledge that might seem obvious or basic to anyone who's been on the other side of the interaction.