Just look at animemes banning the use of tr*p. Of course not every anime is misogynist but... there’s kinda a lot. And I think there’s a lot of blatant misogyny that is definitely noticed, and people who watch those scenes know it’s bad, but if you keep watching that shit over and over, even if you know it’s bad, it just get burned into your brain. But more importantly, a lot of anime just treats women as a whole differently than the male characters. Their drawn slightly differently, they act slightly differently, and they continue to be treated as objects, albeit in more subtle ways. On their own or in a bubble these grievances wouldn’t be a big deal, but it does add up. Idk, shit just sucks and it makes it hard to get into shows I would really like otherwise...
Death Note is one of the worst anime out there when it comes to the representation of women imo. The main antagonist/protagonist constantly remarks on how easily fooled and overly emotional women are. And the show does it's darndest to try and prove him right, even the female god of death gets done in because of it. The sexism gets a lot more obvious when it comes to their follow up work, Bakuman, though. Death Note just keeps getting worse whenever I return to it.
Ugh, I love the conflict between Light and L, but I can't stand Misa's terrible characterization (or lack thereof, I should say). Her entire role in the story is to be Light's goth slave gf and give him access to a second death note. I wasn't even radicalized when I first watched it and it bothered me even back then.