Just look at animemes banning the use of tr*p. Of course not every anime is misogynist but... there’s kinda a lot. And I think there’s a lot of blatant misogyny that is definitely noticed, and people who watch those scenes know it’s bad, but if you keep watching that shit over and over, even if you know it’s bad, it just get burned into your brain. But more importantly, a lot of anime just treats women as a whole differently than the male characters. Their drawn slightly differently, they act slightly differently, and they continue to be treated as objects, albeit in more subtle ways. On their own or in a bubble these grievances wouldn’t be a big deal, but it does add up. Idk, shit just sucks and it makes it hard to get into shows I would really like otherwise...
Check out series that are tagged with Josei or Shoujo for shows that are more geared towards women/written by women.
Also, I'll throw in a rec for Usagi Drop - Adorable show that explores the challenges of being a mother in modern society. I'd argue this one (and its controversial source material) is actually feminist in nature in that the women in the series are allowed to make choices that go against societal expectations of them.