Moving to a university town full of young men looking to a 40-ish dom like me for their first subbing experience has been an eye-opener. Last month I had a new session partner actually start crying because he'd never experienced proper aftercare before. Poor guy had a few sessions with other self-described doms who were just dumb thugs only looking to hit him into obedience then kick him out the door once they'd had their fun. He'd never before had prior discussions on physical limits, verbal limits, safewords, safe gestures, expectations, etc. And he'd definitely not had a dom provide food and gatorade and clean towels and a clean bathrobe and a new toothbrush and other freshening-up essentials for afterwards.
Poor guy had a few sessions with other self-described doms who were just dumb thugs only looking to hit him into obedience then kick him out the door once they'd had their fun.
I would not be surprised if such experiences were responsible for a sizable portion of the anti-kink movement.
I like to think of it as elevating subs' standards. It's a mutually beneficial arrangement. Asshole fake doms get less action, us proper doms get more, and our sub partners have way more fun.
yeah it sounds mutually beneficial until it starts an arms race and every sub out there starts expecting aftercare including a BRAND NEW CAR and then where will us poor schmucks be?? 😔😔😔
Moving to a university town full of young men looking to a 40-ish dom like me for their first subbing experience has been an eye-opener. Last month I had a new session partner actually start crying because he'd never experienced proper aftercare before. Poor guy had a few sessions with other self-described doms who were just dumb thugs only looking to hit him into obedience then kick him out the door once they'd had their fun. He'd never before had prior discussions on physical limits, verbal limits, safewords, safe gestures, expectations, etc. And he'd definitely not had a dom provide food and gatorade and clean towels and a clean bathrobe and a new toothbrush and other freshening-up essentials for afterwards.
I'm no kinkster but food, gatorade and a bathrobe? Hell yeah sign me up, no one ever gave me a bathrobe
I would not be surprised if such experiences were responsible for a sizable portion of the anti-kink movement.
wow look at you going ten extra miles making the rest of us look bad 😔
I like to think of it as elevating subs' standards. It's a mutually beneficial arrangement. Asshole fake doms get less action, us proper doms get more, and our sub partners have way more fun.
yeah it sounds mutually beneficial until it starts an arms race and every sub out there starts expecting aftercare including a BRAND NEW CAR and then where will us poor schmucks be?? 😔😔😔
Shit... you're right. Maybe we ought to unionize. Do some collective bargaining instead of this exploitative one-on-one individual contracting thing.
Under socialism it will be publicly owned and centrally planned.
Damn I thought my aftercare was good but a new toothbrush? I would be floored by that