isnt "they" is what people use when they don't know the gender? I use it all the time in help desk tickets since many names i couldn't guess the gender. ive been on this site too much and never seen someone be miffed about using "they."
yeah but it also becomes the liberal's version of misgendering for people who don't 100% pass or who a lib just wants to be shitty to. It's simply misgendering but with plausible deniability in many cases, so people on here (where basically everyone has pronouns listed) get a little touchy about it since there's kinda no excuse at that point
yes, how dare that person(who commented above) not click the profile link and check out what a long inactive and once problematic admin preferred, instead of defaulting to "i don't know." What an egregious crime.
Let's not be a parody of ourselves. It's important to read a persons intent and not just their words.(which sounds like me being a lib, but it's the internet. youre reading words without any tone or emotion so you have to process it differently)
I'm not saying crucify them, geez, I'm just explaining why it's sometimes touchy despite generally being "the default when you don't know". That user is talking about how they were around at the time and knew her/were driven away by her, so idk, it's not 100% unreasonable, esp considering gender figures heavily in her username, but it's also almost certainly a misunderstanding. Still, no reason to be hostile to a minor correction either. It's fine.
lotta liberals out there using "they" in an aggressive way? sure if you say so. In my experience liberals arent smart enough to know how to use the word "they" properly.
I've had it done to me before I started using she/they with the intent of refusing to accept that I'm a "real woman". It tends to be used as a way to refuse to use someone's correct pronouns, and instead handwave their identity as unimportant, but the lib still gets to feel progressive. Imo it's only proper to use they/them as a default when you have no way of knowing someone's pronouns.
oh it absolutely happens. i know a dude who self-ids as strictly gay but is dating a pre-everything trans woman and exclusively refers to her with they/them pronouns. just as a fun example.
just bc you haven't encountered a behavior doesn't make it imaginary, and this one is harmful to trans people.
The addition of the "and once problematic" bit makes it sound like you're suggesting that she deserves to be misgendered some amount because you don't respect her. I don't expect that's what you meant but you might want to change that wording.
i didnt think i was crazy there. plus she was responding to Infamousblt, a 3 year user. So im gonna go ahead and doubt that person is some awful transphobe. I guess milistanaccount09 also should have also checked a profile huh?
I dunno, if this were some long in depth conversation about another person, sure. We could do more diligence and stuff but this isn't one of those conversations so it seems okay to use more generic pronouns should be acceptible.
Maybe it helps one of the last conversations I had with them before their final was after a book club reading of Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue and they were feeling that they might be a bit more fluid than they had previously thought.
isnt "they" is what people use when they don't know the gender? I use it all the time in help desk tickets since many names i couldn't guess the gender. ive been on this site too much and never seen someone be miffed about using "they."
yeah but it also becomes the liberal's version of misgendering for people who don't 100% pass or who a lib just wants to be shitty to. It's simply misgendering but with plausible deniability in many cases, so people on here (where basically everyone has pronouns listed) get a little touchy about it since there's kinda no excuse at that point
yes, how dare that person(who commented above) not click the profile link and check out what a long inactive and once problematic admin preferred, instead of defaulting to "i don't know." What an egregious crime.
Let's not be a parody of ourselves. It's important to read a persons intent and not just their words.(which sounds like me being a lib, but it's the internet. youre reading words without any tone or emotion so you have to process it differently)
Good thing I didn't say that
I'm not saying crucify them, geez, I'm just explaining why it's sometimes touchy despite generally being "the default when you don't know". That user is talking about how they were around at the time and knew her/were driven away by her, so idk, it's not 100% unreasonable, esp considering gender figures heavily in her username, but it's also almost certainly a misunderstanding. Still, no reason to be hostile to a minor correction either. It's fine.
lotta liberals out there using "they" in an aggressive way? sure if you say so. In my experience liberals arent smart enough to know how to use the word "they" properly.
I've had it done to me before I started using she/they with the intent of refusing to accept that I'm a "real woman". It tends to be used as a way to refuse to use someone's correct pronouns, and instead handwave their identity as unimportant, but the lib still gets to feel progressive. Imo it's only proper to use they/them as a default when you have no way of knowing someone's pronouns.
It's a Thing, yeah, idk what to tell you
oh it absolutely happens. i know a dude who self-ids as strictly gay but is dating a pre-everything trans woman and exclusively refers to her with they/them pronouns. just as a fun example.
just bc you haven't encountered a behavior doesn't make it imaginary, and this one is harmful to trans people.
The addition of the "and once problematic" bit makes it sound like you're suggesting that she deserves to be misgendered some amount because you don't respect her. I don't expect that's what you meant but you might want to change that wording.
Its just a gender neutral pronoun. Its fine.
i didnt think i was crazy there. plus she was responding to Infamousblt, a 3 year user. So im gonna go ahead and doubt that person is some awful transphobe. I guess milistanaccount09 also should have also checked a profile huh?
I dunno, if this were some long in depth conversation about another person, sure. We could do more diligence and stuff but this isn't one of those conversations so it seems okay to use more generic pronouns should be acceptible.
Maybe it helps one of the last conversations I had with them before their final
was after a book club reading of Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue and they were feeling that they might be a bit more fluid than they had previously thought.