I'm oscillating between overwhelming joy and crushing anxiety. I'm not sure what type of world I'll be bringing this child into, but I'm still deeply excited.
Does anyone have resources on parenting books by communists? I'm anxious and I want to feel like I'm doing something, but I don't want a parenting book written by some consultant fuck, if I can avoid it.
I had the same worries. Like Im known for not losing my temper and being very laid back about things, softly spoken and sensitive but I was terrified that I would lose it and be like my stepdad. That book honestly helped a lot. After reading it a lot of my worries just faded away. Definitely give it a read because it helped me so much.
The big thing I will say is that you know more than you think. It sounds like feel good nonsense but somewhere in your brain you already know how to deal with a child far better than you realise.
Also everyone forgets this but learn how to easily put on and take off a nappy (diaper) before the baby is born. It's honestly something people overlook and end up worrying about. Sounds dumb but trust me. It's a weird weight off your mind to have something physical and practical you can do yourself.
Definitely, definitely. I'm glad it helped ease some of your anxiety. I'm gonna check it out.
And yeah, I hadn't even really thought about some of the mechanics involved in raising a kid: changing em, feeding, etc. I got wikihow this shit.
You ever need help or anything drop me a line. I have read every baby book going and helped with child care since I was 13 (I have 5 siblings, so you know). Big thing though - always stay calm. You got this.
Also the mother is going to need you way more than you or her think and she will find it hard to see your contributions when she's in the midst of things. Don't take that personally. Every mother does it, it's basically because her body and mind go into mother and child mode and discount everything else as irrelevant information.
Honestly kudos for taking things seriously and not panicking. My mum's abusive boyfriend was 50 and he panicked, denied responsibility and tried to prevent anyone from finding out. You're already doing better than he did.