Disclaimer: All my love to poly comrades, I'm not shitting on your relationship preferences, it's just this tweet is ridiculous.

  • T_Doug [he/him]
    2·
    4 years ago

    I've got nothing against Poly relationships, but I feel like most people already have enough trouble dealing with only one other romantic partner. A 4 person polycule has 6 different individual relationships within itself, and I feel like that would have way too much potential for messiness for me to feel comfortable in.

    • KobaCumTribute [she/her]
      7·
      4 years ago

      The vast majority of poly relationships I've seen have basically just gone "two people who are intensely in love with each other but also one or both want to sleep around -> one of them gets replaced in emotional importance by someone new -> the replaced party ends up deeply hurt that someone they love doesn't give a shit about them anymore." It's happened to friends of mine, it happened to my ex before we started dating, and then she did it to me in turn. In fact, I've only ever seen one long-term stable polycule and even having barely any contact with them all I see is the ridiculous amount of effort they all put in to maintain that relationship with one another.

      • QuillQuote [they/them]
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        4 years ago

        People get hurt and badly hurt each other in relationships all the time. Lots of people aren't (yet but they could be) the kind to reflect and really care about the needs of others, and just as is the case with monogamy, usually results in pain and hurt feelings. It's nothing unique to polyamory, it's just that polyamory involves more moving parts and there are more opportunities for friction.

      • kristina [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        the ones ive seen work best is when two couples decide they really like each other's company and decide to take it more seriously. everyone already is more attached to one person and it helps meld things better.

    • RNAi [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Trouble do be increasing at n*(n-1)/2 n - 0.5 rate, but it's a personal choice.

      Or groupal in this case, but you get it.

      • T_Doug [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        I don't know if your doing a bit, but:

        AB, AC, AD

        BC, BD,

        CD

        Each of these is an individual relationship

        • HereInRobotHell [they/them,comrade/them]
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          4 years ago

          Not everyone has to date everyone in a polycule.

          Take a three person polycule for instance.

          It can be A B and BC

          Or it can be A B, B C, and CA