Anybody want to commiserate on something that sucks?
I hate the isolation that comes with everything being privately owned. I hate everything being a subscription that capitalists can take away at a moment's notice. I hate how I'm too tired and poor to take part in my community. I hate that there is hardly any community left in our society because everyone is working or tired from working and there are no free public spaces around anyway.
We can't even loiter and hang out at most places. We can't be indoors in an air conditioned room without being expected to buy things. We can't even have private spaces
I hate how I'm too tired and poor to take part in my community.
This is something I feel so so much. I blame a good part on autistic burnout but I know that capitalism is just crushing the life out of a lot of folks. I only have energy for working and union organizing at my work. Other than that I just stare at my phone, and then feel guilt because I'm not engaging in/providing solidarity for other communal pursuits that I want to
Biden is an awful president and I'm tired of anyone who says otherwise
Oh my god I hate him so much. He's just hiding behind not being trump. And the fact that libs have used him to set the bar for leftism (as they usually do when they manage it) means that any critique against him gets read as conservative.
I want to say I hate Biden without drawing in nearby chuds.
"I hate biden, he's just like trump but less funny"
now everyone will be mad at you :garf-troll:
look, biden could be funny if dems would just swallow their pride and let him in front of a camera
I haven't laughed at a president so hard since trump got covid and I know I'd love to see the discourse around that
When you look at the impact of his policies and the Trump policies he's continuing he's literally worse
At least people cared about what different branches of the government did. The parliamentarian made an appearance just to give an excuse for Biden to do nothing and people are back to brunch.
It's quite nice to hear critiques of Biden without having some lib come by with a 6 paragraph apologist rant
I just ruminate on how much the Dems suck with them until they bring up some stupid chud talking point and then I go away.
"well let me get this straight, you think Joe Biden getting COVID is funny?"
anyone who says otherwise
Stockholm syndrome. These people imagined Biden as FDR reborn in 2020 - a magazine in my country ran a headline, "will Joe Biden abolish neoliberalism now?" - and they got Ultra-Trump. Which of course they can never admit.
It disgusts me at a deep primordial level that so many cultural norms in the west are rooted largely in one great overriding sentiment: caring about things is for stupid weaklings, and apathy is smart and for the strong.
Omfg me too, it makes me passionately angry to the point of inarticulate screaming.
Fucking same. I always talk to people about individualist mindsets vs communalist mindsets. We are just so brainwashed into being individual that we (see:white westerners) don't have community, don't care about other people, don't care for our elders....And that's just it. I hate it
And then there are bullshit things you're expected to care about, but ultimately just reinforce the status quo. Defend
but if you use that same to talk about the US exploiting people in another country for our amusement, all of a sudden, that's cringe.
A Co-worker of mine murdered my boss. Now, he was a piece of shit, but that was the best job I'd ever had. Worked like clockwork, the pay was terrific. Now I'm gonna have to partner with the son of a bitch who murdered him so I can compensate my guys in prison.
If I'm with friends or people I know I can be playful with, I like to give a simple "shut up."
I miss the Beforetimes
Like, if I had known that the world was going to get like this, I would have really cut loose in college
Instead I studied like a nerd and got my degree because I had a five year plan and everything
I should have listened to that cool old guy at the bus stop who told me to enjoy life and not worry about school so much
Grass is always greener my friend. I'm 45 and just starting my first "real job". I've had a lot of fun, but I'm not super stoked to be looking at starting a career while my friends ponder retirement.
Are you me? I didn't get cool until way late in life. Missed out on so much by either not having the right friends in school, or by being too afraid of getting into trouble.
It's rough to see how many opportunities are going away with time. It's shitty too because a lot of that pressure to not live life came from previous generations who are now saying we should've majored in x or just invested in something.
I don't regret my education so much, but I do regret believing in support systems that would be there once I finished.
How are there so many anti-vegans who go to vegan spaces/discussions to post their ”I like eating meat tho” tier bullshit? Fine, then you can fuck off. The irony is that vegans supposedly can't shut up about
, but I see way more of this online.Right?! I used to think a lot about that kind stuff a lot and I have theory about it: They see a vegan simply existing and (maybe subconsciously) think "shit, not eating meat etc kind of makes sense" but then instead of learning from it, they take it as a personal insult almost. Like "fuck you, you're not a better person than me". Then the initial reaction is to deny and deflect and throw shit, so you can delegitimise the argument and won't have to think about it critically. Same reason that people who like to drive cars a lot might dislike cyclists, or why some people are instinctively annoyed with people who are athletic. And now that I think about it, the same thing happens when libs face criticism from the left. Probably this is already a really basic psychological concept that I re-invented, but anyway.
Probably this is already a really basic psychological concept that I re-invented, but anyway.
Sounds like cognitive dissonance to me. I get, I also used to do the
”actually vegan diets aren't as good as you vegoons think” stuff before I figured out that the best way to get rid of cognitive dissonance was to just be vegan.I never would've gone to spaces specifically for vegans to proclaim how awesome meat was, though. Do these people think there's a Medal of Edgy Contrarianism in it for them or something?
This resonated with me. Fuck it, I might give this vegan thing a try.
Yeah go for it. Try not to be too hardline if it stresses you out. My therapist told me a neat little thing a while ago when I was going through a similar lifestyle choice and felt like shit because I relapsed or whatever. They told me that instead of making the choice once and for all, you can always choose day-by-day. "Am I vegan today?" instead of "I am vegan."
cognitive dissonance
oh right so that's what it means
Medal of Edgy Contrarianism
also known as Reddit Gold
Right?! I used to think a lot about that kind stuff a lot and I have theory about it: They see a vegan simply existing and (maybe subconsciously) think "shit, not eating meat etc kind of makes sense" but then instead of learning from it, they take it as a personal insult almost. Like "fuck you, you're not a better person than me". Then the initial reaction is to deny and deflect and throw shit, so you can delegitimise the argument and won't have to think about it critically. Same reason that people who like to drive cars a lot might dislike cyclists, or why some people are instinctively annoyed with people who are athletic. And now that I think about it, the same thing happens when libs face criticism from the left. Probably this is already a really basic psychological concept that I re-invented, but anyway.
They can't be doing the wrong thing. They're the main character.
I think my biggest regret is saying that I'm vegan at work. Now people talk about what they ate over the weekend or whatever, remember that I'm vegan, and then start talking about their reasoning behind why eating fish is okay. I didn't ask bro
And it's like, I care, but you don't want to have the conversation and I don't have time for it in the brief spaces where we can talk.
My favorite story after I came over to the veganside:
At my last job a co-worker called my for help on a system and went on a 5 minute unprovoked tirade about vegans. Like just went off and went down the list checking each carnist talking point along the way. Just very unhinged.
After he got done, I said " you know I'm vegan, right?"
This mother fucker went on and said " oh well I don't care what vegans eat as long as they don't shove it down my throat."
And I'm not even joking but the next thing he fucking said was "you eat chicken tho right?"
You can't write this shit.
saying that I'm vegan at work
So now they know not to offer you animal-based treats and stuff?then start talking about their reasoning behind why eating fish is okay. I didn't ask bro
I thought I'd just say I was vegan early to prevent the awkwardness of denying every offered meal, as a treat.
I think at least some of it is their attempt to bury a painful sliver of guilt about what they're consuming, overcompensating by going from the uncomfortable "maybe what I am consuming is cruel" feeling to "sticking it to those silly comical vegans validates my consumption" reaction.
How do you know when someone's vegan?
Don't worry, you'll be able to tell by the small crowd gathered around them asking them inane questions like:
"But what if the animal consents though?"
"If you were stranded on a deserted island..."
"If everyone went vegan then wouldn't that make farm animals go extinct?"
"What about if I tell you that for every piece of meat that you don't eat, I'll eat two?"
etc. etc.
I wish I could truly be myself but society would hate me for it (autism)
Society be like "have you tried not being autistic" and I'm all
You know that episode of Twilight Zone where it's the last man on earth? I fantasize about the scenario all the time. But alas.
I will forever angry about how capitalist obsession with intellectual property has fucked over the progression of genetic sequencing.
Like, you have all these next gen genome sequencing techniques like Sanger sequencing. But because the methodology for them is heavily patented, research in the genetic screening techniques have largely focused on doing the same thing in legally distinct ways. The end result is that screening techniques haven't really gotten much better or more efficient in years.
The best minds in genetics are all locked away in separate labs unable to properly iterate and improve gene sequencing because the most profitable research (and therefore the most important to pharma corporations) is to develop as many of these techniques as possible and then squat on the patents.
It's awful! I hate IP laws for several reasons, but we can't share data in medicine because different companies own research.
We don't have access to collective knowledge because it's not profitable. And then there are the little bits of capitalism that further hinder research innovations: paywalls, different user interfaces for different sites making it hard to cross-reference information, junk studies that were published because somebody wanted to make a quick buck.
Patent law just needs to not exist.
Dating in hellworld fucking sucks so hard, dating while fat is even worse
Amen. It normalizes devaluing people's feelings and lying for self-defense
For real. Dating is such an uncomfortable space and I know classism was always a thing, but the body shaming is a nightmare when people can just scroll past or filter you out.
It's not that as much as I've never been somebody's first option in anything. Not relationships, not friendships. It's a very, very, very, rare day when someone hits me up to hang out.
Oh, I see what you meant now. Thanks for clarifying it for me.
When you're not treated like anybody's first option, that really hurts. For be what it's worth, I'm sorry that you're experiencing that.
Uhh yeah, he already had a boyfriend. Everyone's already taken it seems. I've asked out several people and they were all already taken.
ah, thats rough. it really does feel like no one is ever single anymore.
I can't even imagine how shitty online dating has gotten since I found someone and got married. And the "touch grass" alternatives (including the memetastic "go to le bar") sound horrible in their own ways for single people.
yeah, Im struggling to make friends personally. I dont want to go to bars, people who go to bars are there. i think i need a hobby like roller derby. I hear roller derby is mostly queer women and enbys. but i gotta get in shape, and buy roller skates. theres one near me that is proudly trans inclusive and they need people.
I dont want to go to bars, people who go to bars are there
That is such a real mood and it's haunted me for decades without putting it to such words.
Amtrak really sucks ass and we deserve a proper passenger rail network
I envy every fictional setting with a train. Magic powers are cool, but when you see a train that's so easy to use, kids can use it independently, I feel so bitter. Sorry you can't reach any cool place unless you have a car, money for gas, and money for parking!
I'm annoyed I was circumsised. It just sucks that I'd rather have it, but that option was taken away from me.
Body mods, especially genital body mods, should not be done on infants. It's fucking disgusting how common it is in the states. I want my bodily autonomy too, damn it.
It's really fucked how a lot of the justifications are either from convenience and/or or a belief that youth feel pain differently (they won't feel it now, so you might as well get it done while we're here).
And it's something that doesn't have to be done. And then reading into the history of preventing masturbation adds a whole nother level of fucked up puritanical shit.
Yeah people shouldn't have bits of their genitals cut off without consent. It's literally what transphobic right wingers say is happening, but because religion is the reason, it's ok now.
Absolutely. They don't care at all about kids, or they'd also be protesting circumcision. I have literally never seen one of these chuds bring it up. They only care about "order" (what they perceive to be order, anyway). Fucking fascists everywhere.
My go-to rant is that I hate it when historical dramas have fashionable, modern haircuts. I get it, Brother Bumbledorf of the Footsnifferian Monastery would look like shit with a tonsure, but if you want me to take your show seriously you can't have a ship full of fashion models with the same undercut the guy at the fancy burger place has landing in Northbumblia to sack the village and expect me to go "oh no vikings".
Brother Bumbledorf - tonsured, lightly oiled, and absolutely shredded
Watch Braveheart and spend 2 hours wondering how they all had perfectly bleached white teeth.
no smoking or high sugar intake, along with a low life expectancy, their teeth would generally be better than poor folks' are now. and they had various treatments and stuff for tooth care, it just wasn't very good.
I don't doubt it, but we're talking pearly and immaculate; like a brand new toilet bowl. Lol
It makes it especially infuriating when the only complaints around historical accuracy come about with the introduction of black people, women (outside of normative roles), or LGBTQ themes.
Even non-CHUD bait historical inquiries don't bother me all that much if they serve the plot, it's just that the clear visual anachronism pisses me off. It'd be like a biopic of Lenin with a Ford F150 in the background.
The storming of the Winter Palace with a BattleTech Marauder in the background, an edit that accidentally got included in a textbook, was awesome at least.
Good point. It's jarring seeing modern aesthetics in a historical setting. I had that with seeing bright colors or designs on clothing/armor
Depending on the era, outright garish clothes with big codpieces and the like would actually be historically accurate compared to grimdark quasi-medieval aesthetics.
That P R E S T I G E T V Viking show was a non-starter for me because of those ridiculous modern haircuts and beard combos.
they should be wearing helmets and hats! the north sea is cold and raiding is dangerous!
Every weekend I have to work 8 hours as a cartpusher/janitor/bagger until my legs die, every weekday I get more schoolwork than I can complete in that timeframe before coming home to get my phone confiscated like I’m a 12 year old so I can “focus better” on homework, I have next to no free time whatsoever, my number of friends is in the single digits and even then I can only see one or two of them in person regularly, I have no fucking clue what college to go to, my dad’s semineglectful, my mom’s a former ABA torturer, and my little brother is being raised horribly by them and will probably have to put up with it for twelve more years
Shit sucks
Wait how old are you? I always assumed you were in your mid-20s or older. Please tell me you're at least an adult, but then you were on here as a kid too?
Senior year of HS rn (yes I know I’m terminally fucked in the head, at least I never had a filthy frank phase in fifth grade or something)
It's so weird finding out we have children on here, it makes me feel uncomfortable.
That's fucked, and I'm sorry to hear you're going through this.
If you're unsure about college to go to, it's really all the same, especially if you have stuff you still want to figure out.
I applied to the college that would get me out of my house fastest and just having some distance from my home life gave me a lot of breathing room. You're already working hard and it sounds like getting a chance to rest and heal will do a lot to help
I'm so fucking sick of living in a society. I've got a host of neurodivergencies that make life in a society a living hell. I have ADHD, BPD, ASD, I'm Transgender.
All I want is to be a nomad, traveling the world at my pace, foraging for food and collecting trinkets and baubles that make my brain go brrrr but no, instead of that I have to work a job I don't want, for a company who doesn't respect me, just to maintain a decent standard of living in a country that couldn't give two shits whether I survive the day or not.
BP, queer, and going through not only ADHD but full psych screenings now. Feel this. If you ever need an inbox, hit me up.
As a fellow ND person, I seriously relate. It was hammered into me as a kid that I needed to be a good part of capitalist society even if it didn't make sense to me. Now that I've deprogrammed parts of that, I see the pointless bullshit for what it is. None of it makes sense and there's never a reason for most of it outside of 'because the owner of ____ said so.'
It sucks now too because we can't easily wander off like in the days before social media and credit scores
All I want is to be a nomad, traveling the world at my pace, foraging for food and collecting trinkets and baubles that make my brain go brrrr
I think a lot of historical hatred for Roma/Tinkers/Travelers throughout the world comes from people in generations past being that mad at people living that way.
I really dislike the cultural norm of saying something when someone sneezes. I don't wanna hear it, there's never anything new in the what you say just the same few lines, and I don't like feeling like I might be being rude by not saying something to a stranger.
So you just want people's souls to escape out their noses? You're a monster.
I am actually on the complete opposite end of this and I consider it rude not to say something. It fits into other manners like "please" and "thank you".
It's such an arbitrary relic. I don't know if people ever really believed saying something helped the soul or whatever, but it's so tedious. Or people get competitive and try to be that person, who's polite and then it sets the standard of good manners.
At least if you're gonna acknowledge I sneezed, could you give the person a tissue? At least then you'd be doing something.
And don't even get me started on the chud types who explicitly say 'god bless you' like every sneeze is a battlefield in the culture war
And don't even get me started on the chud types who explicitly say 'god bless you' like every sneeze is a battlefield in the culture war
In a few months we're going to get into the Christmas Wars again.
I like saying something when I sneeze. Like "gadzoontypes!"
know what it's like
