I'm a cis dude, but only bc that's what is easiest. If everyone were to collectively decide I was no longer a cis dude I wouldn't care. I don't really have preferred pronouns but I usually just do he/him cause I don't really care and that's what I present as. I should probably just consider myself agender, but again that seems like too much effort, so eh.
tbh i think this is a somewhat common thing among cis people. its what makes being trans in some cases very confusing
like my mom always was like 'i dont feel like a woman im just me' and my boyfriend is like this too but i think this is a common thing among decent men who dont go super hard into the trucknuts stuff.
and i think that its just a part of the full spectrum of expression. but maybe what makes someone trans is how highly they identify with it and how much they feel the need to change socially ingrained behaviors for themselves, and maybe if they feel they don't 'look' right currently.
like for me, what made me realize i was trans was 1. male puberty and how much i hated it 2. having like .001 mm of my hair recede and me freaking out instantly and getting on hormones. but im extremely binary so idk im just spitballing and im kinda high rn