It makes me so mad/sad that this is the modern reality for relationships. At the same time my self esteem is skyrocketing because of all the likes like a casino with bright lights and big numbers but the whole thing feels cheapened. I know there's more valid reasons to this besides the fact that idk how to text matches but I'm blanking

  • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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    4 years ago

    Generally speaking, my dating life was bound up with my friends and my work.

    Going to a bar and just hitting on people is terrible for a whole bunch of reasons. But when you have mutual friends and you meet in a social atmosphere and you start to hang out more because you like one another... That's good and healthy and perfectly normal.

    Tinder gets around the need to have a social life populated with horny single people. And that's good. But it also enables that social alienation, which is less good.

    The further gamification of dating (particularly the P2W aspect) is nightmarishly cynical.

    But if you don't like it, there are a thousand clone-alternatives for hooking up. They just aren't anything that'll get you past the natural isolation of a modem capitalist lifestyle.