giving her the benefit of the doubt I had responded to "since you're jewish what do you know about the jewish mafia?" with an explanation of the Purple Gang and Meyer Lansky and the absorption of the mafia into the national security state, and she comes back at me with that.
This came after two days of me explaining historical materialism to her. I think there's a lesson to be learned here about white people
They're nice because you don't have to go out alone, you don't have to hit on people in front of your friends/at places your friends want to go, and you can be as sure as possible that the person you're talking to is at least somewhat interested in you as a romantic partner. They have a ton of downsides, of course.
The synthesis here is to have only a short conversation then suggest getting a coffee, a beer, or some other short activity.