• the_river_cass [she/her]
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          4 years ago

          you might relax her a bunch if you get her a gift and add a note that explains that you're just busy. people usually do what they'd most like to receive rather than thinking through what the target of their affection actually wants. it's the failure of empathy as framed by "put yourself in their shoes".

          (assuming, ofc, that you're not just done with her, in the first place)