If you thought you were a true ally, maybe it's time for some introspection.

    • gay [any]
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      4 years ago

      "Full transition" is a dumb term. Not all trans people want the same medical procedures and treatments. It a trans woman doesn't want bottom surgery she just... doesn't and lives her life

        • gay [any]
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          4 years ago

          "Transbian" is "trans lesbian". A trans woman (or non binary person who experiences transmisogyny) who identifies as a lesbian. How am I defaulting to trans women when both the original tweet and the person you're responding to mentioned them first.

          The reason people "default" to trans women in these discussions is transmisogyny and this idea that trans women will force you to be with them.

    • autismdragon [he/him, comrade/them]
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      4 years ago

      Yeah I can see how that might be a problem for an ongoing relationship that isn't exclusively sexual. Not sure how that would be dealt with. Still don't think genital preferences are necessarily a problem because of it though.

      Honestly I imagine if two transbians started dating who hadn't had bottom surgery and then one one of them decided she wanted it I'm pretty sure they wouldn't break up over that or anything. Probably at that point you're emotionally commited and you accept your partner for who they are. Idk tho, shits complicated, and I reiterate that I'm probably not the person to answer this question as a dang cisgender.