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  • breadandcircuses [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    yea, absolutely. this 100% how you encourage disordered eating. regardless of "the lesson," withholding food from your nine-year-old daughter (as a reminder, this is a nine-year-old) teaches nothing except that unless you do arbitrary tasks, you will not be fed and it will be entirely your fault.

    • Nero [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Maybe I might buy that if the food was an integral part of the greater lesson, but it's not, it's incidental to the situation. If she were trying to open up anything else in a can the lesson would be the same.

      And don't even try the "but he said she couldn't eat until she opened the can" argument, he's obviously not going to let the child starve to the point of detriment, it's just a way to incentivise the learning experience.

      • breadandcircuses [she/her]
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        4 years ago

        he's obviously not going to let the child starve

        this is obvious to you and i, who are adults, but not necessarily to her.

        • Nero [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          You severely underestimate the mental capabilities of a nine year old. This kind of infantilization and coddling is way more damaging than anything the frontman of the long winters does to his child in this twitter thread

          • breadandcircuses [she/her]
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            4 years ago

            christ ahah i knew as soon as i sent that you were going to say "coddling." sorry, i don't think kids should be forced to open a can of beans for six hours in order to eat. guess i'm going to coddle my children and they'll all grow up to be pathetic soyboys.

            • Nero [he/him]
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              4 years ago

              Exact same energy as people who correct grammar in an argument, why bother trying to have a conversation when you're just gonna get all pissy because I used a specific word and refuse to address what I actually said.

              • breadandcircuses [she/her]
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                4 years ago

                okay, sure. in what way is saying that a nine-year-old might associate being forced to cry and destroy a can of beans for six hours while her dad ignores her plays a puzzle with not being able to eat "more damaging" than the dad doing that? what damage am i doing?

                • Nero [he/him]
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                  4 years ago

                  He wasn't ignoring her, you're too wrapped up in your own narrative. He was providing questions to ask to help lead his daughter to conclusion. She wasn't crying for six straight hours, she got frustrated because she's a child and wasn't given instant gratification.