I agree a lot with this. There is tons of "we need to make this community like this or that" and it feels weird because it's not really a community. People just want to chill and that's really the main aim any forum like this one should keep in mind, and neither bigotry nor non stop drama are good for that (not saying that to oppose the claim growth should be happening, it really should and it's a fair point). It's really become much less enjoyable to be around. At first I was a bit sad about some users (both trans users who were upset about the whole thing and users who were unfairly banned who just got pissed about the whole thing and left after getting unbanned anyways) leaving, but now? I don't care, like, wtf are they missing out on by not being here any more? And what are we missing by them not being around if all the discussions are just shit drama? I left too for a couple weeks because the atmosphere was getting gross and mean spirited and I made the mistake of letting it get to me, now that I'm back (thanks Capitol riots) everything looks so stupid.

At this point I kinda support just closing it down for 3 days or whatever just so people log the fuck off for a while and then aggressively pursue new users.