With how the site is, now's a good a time as ever, right?
Recently met up with and had a conversation with an old acquaintance (who I respect in some ways more than others), noticed a few things.
It is easy for a man to have contempt for what culture and society claims are the follies of women: they are emotional, they do not know what they want, they play mindgames, they are petty. A woman's anger is considered hysterical. A woman's interest in fashion is a mark of her vapidity. A woman without a father has "daddy issues." These are reinforced and internalized over and over again, from an essentialist view, as 'irrational' behavior.
But when a man does not know what he wants, it is "him finding himself." When a man plays mindgames, he is smart and devious and a "magnificent bastard." When a man is petty and one-ups someone, it is an "alpha move." A man's anger is considered to be just, righteous, and awe-inspiring. A man's interest in fashion is a mark of his class. A man without a father is a noble tragedy.
People hate in others what they hate in themselves, as they say.
When girls write love letters to murderers in prison, society gasps collectively. How dare they! But when boys commit murder, we shrug and say... why wouldn't they?
It's easy to say you're a feminist or ally or whatever you want. But remember the society you came from sank its hooks in deep, and its fallacious appeals to nature ("Women just want to be mothers, and this is clear by how we pressure them to be mothers!") are persistent. Remember a lot of psychological and sociological research was performed on specific populations that aren't universally representative. Remember that sexual dimorphism and differences in brain structure are not the end-all. Don't ever stop being self-critical.
One of the rightists' greatest weaknesses is their inability to see the potential in half of the world population. Women hold up half the sky, and you're doomed to failure if you entertain ideas to the contrary.
Nice post I want to add that the united state of america is the single most effective propaganda machine and a quote: Trans-misogyny is steeped in the assumption that femaleness and femininity are inferior to, and exist primarily for the benefit of, maleness and masculinity
That's actually something that's useful in explaining how America is a sexist society to people who claim it isn't, or that it's "separate but equal."
If America isn't sexist, why is women jumping into the roles of men considered to be brave and noble (as long as they give it up when the 'real' men show up), but when men jump into the role of women, it's laughed at or seen as horrible? Even for the so-called traditionalists who claim that women run the household and therefore hold equal power, why is "women's work" so terrible if it's so damn important?
The contradictions of the profiteering capitalist class' propaganda are clear when scrutinized from an intersectional perspective. To keep the ruling class from using their means to divide the working class so that the disparity in material conditions can continue.
One of the things I found odd is, even when it became more acceptable for upper-class women to enter more prestigious jobs (for women have always worked, as any historian can tell you), there was still the expectation of homemaking, despite now doing twice the labor of a man. A woman who fails to complete this double duty is then a bad mother or bad wife, while the "incompetent husband and father who gets kids ice cream for dinner" is considered charming.
While American culture has always been tied to capitalism, this shows one of the cases where capitalism is always moving faster than the culture, and the society struggles to keep up and make sense of a less socially sustainable world.
Survey research finds that mothers suffer a substantial wage penalty
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