For me, it's messing up/ doing something socially unacceptable or hurting someones feelings without noticing. In my life I've done this many times, and the times it happened the worst were when I was having a lot of fun, and had no idea I was doing something wrong. I'm the king of miscommunication.
I had a long history of this, especially as a kid, and because of it for a long time whenever I was having a lot of fun in a social situation I'd suddenly remember past times when I messed up, and then I'd go down in a self-doubt spiral and it'd kill my fun and start acting weird.
I'm afraid my executive dysfunction will continue to stop me from making any meaningful progress on my life goals and i will die with a to-do list the length of a CVS receipt
that living in the deep south and having awful social skills will lead to me either regretting trying to be friendly to 99% of the people i interact with on a daily basis or lead to me to being lonely until i can move places
Yeah it can get pretty crippling sometimes, especially when it comes true and I've done a bad, it can take me a few days or weeks to feel comfortable enjoying myself again. Is that how it is for you?
For an example of a specific time I've done this, if you were around in the very early days of the discord when I became a meme briefly, I consider that whole thing to be one of these times: it was fun, it seemed like everyone else thought it was fun too so I just went all in, and while I was busy having my fun I didn't realize that everyone else got bored and it started being weird and unfun
A time when this didn't happen (I hope >,<) but I was worried the whole time it was happening, was my recent "Kissinger found Dead" post
In the moment, the two experiences feel practically identical. It sucks to get stressed out whenever I'm having fun, but at the same time it's become something of an automated self-crit and it's definitely helped me grow as a person so idunno, take the good with the bad I guess :)
It's more the fear of just harming someone than not pleasing everyone. I just really hate negatively impacting folks
Oh that too, I'm absolutely terrified of that happening both because of trauma from being lied to in one situation in particular, and because in general if people lie it destroys the effectiveness of that coping strategy. Up above my fear was that I wouldn't notice doing something wrong because I'm often not very self-aware in the moment and so rely on feedback from others in those moments.
I get people don't wanna be rude sometimes, but for the love of god if someone asks for honesty be honest Q_Q
I will call out racism or other shitty behavior in the workplace. I can’t advocate for myself, but I can for others.
damn, mood. I think it's somewhat because when I was a kid, any time anything bothered me or I was upset I was "being a drama queen" (including stuff which turned out to be chronic medical conditions) so I basically assumed that if I felt some way... eh, I'm probably making something out of nothing, better not make a big scene out of it
I guess it's just that I don't have that self-doubt when it comes to others and can much more easily find my courage to intervene
yeah i have my boyfriend around whenever some sort of serious life event comes up so he can stick up for me, ive been conditioned through a lot of abuse to be very docile unfortunately
i usually dont call terrible people out but ill definitely be digging dirt on them behind their backs
That I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. It's literally my only goal in life rn.
Doesn't help the guy I really like doesn't want a relationship :(
But also what you said, 100%.
The fear that I'm not enough for the people around me. That I'm going to constantly fail the people who need me the most
My most worrying delusion is that people can hear my thoughts, so everything that goes along with that
killing someone while driving. hurting any other person who hasnt wronged me in any way, even if its relatively minor like bumping into someone and making them hurt. makes me deathly afraid to drive tbh
i think this is mostly just an extension of my empathy, ive been hurt a lot and im really worried about hurting others in any shape or form
