i swear that was a big change for me when i moved from a "third-world country" to a "first-world" one. back home, my friends and i would treat each other all the time, pay our bills, buy food etc. etc. without even a hint of ever "paying back". even if you're poor, money is nothing between friends. then, bam, i'm in the capitalist west and every transaction down to the last freaking cent is being calculated and divided in our bills. at first i'd joke about this with other immigrant friends but as the years went on, i too became like that. shit's toxic.