and then your mom yells at you for not knowing how to shower and like damn i didnt know there was a bad way to shower, maybe if somebody taught me? grrr im mad.
and then your mom yells at you for not knowing how to shower and like damn i didnt know there was a bad way to shower, maybe if somebody taught me? grrr im mad.
Parents never taught me to shower, brush teeth, apply deodorant, shave legs, deal with period. Just got bullied by other kids until I figured it out myself. It can be a form of neglect
Feel this currently it manifests in not doing those things unless I'm going to encounter people
Yeah, I also struggle with this, along with stuff like eating food regularly because as a kid no one cared if I was fed or not. It's really frustrating how our brains get stuck and we basically just keep treating ourselves the way we were treated as children. Really hoping that therapy actually does something to fix this.
For food my solution is I design a meal that gives me everything I need for the day nutritionally complete etc, I make all I need for a week break it into 14 containers then eat 2 a day, it works cause I don't have to think about it I just eat twice a day and only have to cook once
wait you're supposed to do those things even when you're not going to encounter other people?
i feel that. i didn’t brush my teeth or wear deodorant until i was an adult because no one ever made sure i was doing it.