so ive been raped twice before, it sucked. i hate seeing rape posts casually on my feed. its very distressing. so seeing a meme, even with a CW, can stress me out. specifically, i'm referring to the 'its day x and joe biden is still a rapist' meme. this meme sucks because it shows up in the feed and since most rape posts are comments embedded elsewhere, that means i can just avoid the comment sections of this site. however, this meme gets posted nearly every day and its just pure shock jock shit.

ive already considered leaving the site for this reason and i feel like it might be a real bar of entry for anyone that is a sexual violence victim here. im in a support group for SV and i remember when the kavanaugh hearings were all on TV, everyone was talking about how they had to keep TV's off and stick to the internet for entertainment, with heavy filters, and avoid politics altogether. so this isnt just me.

id like to ask the mods for help on this, please remove these sorts of posts featuring rape until we have a keyword filter. rape gets mentioned every couple of hours on this site and it feels like im going through a minefield. @TransComrade69 @Beatnik

also for the people posting the memes: this isnt really a diss on you, probably dont share memes like that though

and yeah, content warnings are awful, theyre either too vague or too specific and are useless for victims. ideally, sites should have keyword filters to hide content that mentions certain words.

  • goldsound [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I used to joke about triggering and say that r*** jokes were okay. Then I met my partner and nothing changes your tune quicker than watching someone you love collapse into a PTSD attack from seeing some passing mention of the word or act on her FB feed.

    I'm truly sorry that you have to deal with this, comrade. I've tried to suggest CW and wording adjustments when I see an opportunity. I know we all want to point out the monstrous nature of the ruling class, but we need to consider how we do it to avoid causing pain.

    • kristina [she/her]
      hexagon
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      4 years ago

      i used to not get the whole being triggered thing till really bad shit happened to me. so yeah a lot of it is a disconnect and reactionary memes making light of a serious issue. an issue that could very easily happen to those same people who dont get it and just think its being overly sensitive.

      yeah some wording adjustments do help but yeah it still makes me not feel right in a lot of cases.