Anyone relate? I really can't date because of my physical and mental health and covid, plus poverty, but god sometimes I miss intimacy.

Sometimes I feel like I deserve this because I broke three women's hearts. And I'm truly sorry for doing that. I'm happy they're doing good now, one is even married! But I miss having someone who loved me and accepted me, someone who had my back, you know?

  • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]
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    4 years ago

    I some times fear it's getting later and later for me to find a relationship or even have sex. Money is an issue to but the best advice I heard is that if someone likes you don't need a fancy dinner just something that shows your affection to hang out.

    Maybe it's easier for me since I don't know what I'm missing out on but I still get lonely. This is were I make a joke about being volcel or at least convince myself I am. I can't be incel because I don't hate women just super shy and anxious.

    Great on your for being happy for your exes though. Hang in there Soros, I have hope for you. Wish me luck too. No matter what happens I hope you find happiness. :heart-sickle:

    • Puffin [any, they/them]
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      4 years ago

      Idk how old you are but I didn't have sex until my mid 20s. It's funny because once I did, it was like the floodgates broke and suddenly it was so easy. I think I was just very in my head about it. Eventually though casual stuff felt kinda empty to me so I calmed back down.

      • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]
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        4 years ago

        28 I hope so. Might have been good I waited though, I feel like I matured a lot. I say this unironically, I know what kind of humor I do all day but feel like Wmill now is wiser than 18 yo Wmill and I'll keep getting wiser. I've resisted doing any jokes so far.

    • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
      hexagon
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      4 years ago

      best advice I heard is that if someone likes you don’t need a fancy dinner just something that shows your affection to hang out.

      No you don't need anything fancy at all!

      • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]
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        4 years ago

        I'm still fancy as I drink my tea with my pinky up. This is not innuendo just to be clear just a spongebob joke btw.

          • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]
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            4 years ago

            On a more serious manner though your right. I guess the fancy dinner thing is a hold over expectation that this capitalist society pushes on us you know? I joke but I do try to look higher class but because I think no one would date me if I didn't.

            Edit made an unintentional manner and fancy joke I'm sorry :sadness:

            • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
              hexagon
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              4 years ago

              Honestly I've never been on a "traditional" date so to speak. When I meet a girl, we usually just hang out in my car or hers and usually make out a bit and get to know one another. So there's that.

              • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]
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                4 years ago

                I've just never been on a date if I'm being honest. I would like to some day, just hope women my age don't mind how much of a dork I am.

                • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
                  hexagon
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                  4 years ago

                  They probably won't. I've known women dorkier than I am and I'm a huge nerd, hell they'll probably find it endearing. It makes you unique!

                  • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]
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                    4 years ago

                    Thanks for the encouragement Soros, makes me feel :Care-Comrade: , I hope I helped you too in some way.

    • duck [he/him,they/them]
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      4 years ago

      Maybe it’s easier for me since I don’t know what I’m missing out on but I still get lonely. This is were I make a joke about being volcel or at least convince myself I am. I can’t be incel because I don’t hate women just super shy and anxious.

      Yeah this