Why would you have a child rather than adopt?

  • Wmill [they/them]
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    4 years ago

    I could be wrong but I think this another part of capitalism that has pervaded our society since forever. I think everything that feels 'natural' is some unchecked thing that props up the system somehow. Like with having biological kids it is seen as like a thing for inheritance hence why words like bastards are bad now.

    I'm of the idea that family is the people your struggle along side with. I can't speak for my trans comrades but am reminded of the stories I've read of how a lot of them where adopted by older drag kings and queens when they were finding themselves and I think that's beautiful.

    For myself I never knew my biological father but my dad that raised me is the only dad I have or will call dad. For these reasons I don't place to much importance on having my own kids. I suspect a lot of other people are like me but don't want confront this for fear that there relationships would crumble, that the love would go away.

    Biological bond is like a promise that you are gonna be able to love your kid but I think this is wrong. Love needs to develop otherwise why would so many parents turn away their biological kids for various reason.

    Mind you I talking about my own experiences and things I've thought about over the years. Still need to iron somethings out and maybe if I read more theory I could say this more better.