I'm going to post a couple links to sources for the next couple days to hopefully start a conversation in this space! These will fall in the area of Fat Studies and there's some norms you should be aware of:
- "fat" is taken as a neutral descriptor, think of it as reclaiming the word.
- "obese" arbitrarily medicalises fatness and Others fat people
I'm a cis man and I have (had) body image issues (in the past)
https://humanparts.medium.com/my-journey-toward-radical-body-positivity-3412796df8ff
I'm queer and fat
https://www.dropbox.com/s/yeefpijtl4s7orv/Flaunting%20Fat%20%E2%80%93%C2%A0Sex%20with%20the%20Lights%20On.pdf?dl=0
I'm queer and not fat
https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/fat-liberation-is-totally-queer
The others don't apply to me and/or I only have the energy/time to read one source
https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/
:sankara-salute:
:heart-sickle: I’m sorry the conditions of this absolute hellscape of a country are such that you aren’t able to get care for things you’ve basically been struggling with for your entire life. Parenting is incredibly difficult and it’s uniquely frustrating to get to adulthood and realize that some of the things your parents did out of a desire to help improve your life actually end up having the opposite effect. Hopefully you’ll end up being able to get care soon but in the meantime this community is more than willing to provide as much help/care/advice/support as possible.