I'm going to post a couple links to sources for the next couple days to hopefully start a conversation in this space! These will fall in the area of Fat Studies and there's some norms you should be aware of:
- "fat" is taken as a neutral descriptor, think of it as reclaiming the word.
- "obese" arbitrarily medicalises fatness and Others fat people
I'm a cis man and I have (had) body image issues (in the past)
https://humanparts.medium.com/my-journey-toward-radical-body-positivity-3412796df8ff
I'm queer and fat
https://www.dropbox.com/s/yeefpijtl4s7orv/Flaunting%20Fat%20%E2%80%93%C2%A0Sex%20with%20the%20Lights%20On.pdf?dl=0
I'm queer and not fat
https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/fat-liberation-is-totally-queer
The others don't apply to me and/or I only have the energy/time to read one source
https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/
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my scoliosis is a big factor in me wanting to maintain a lighter weight, so i feel you. my girlfriend tries to be nice and disagree with me when i say things like "i've put on some weight", but the truth is that it literally physically hurts me when i cultivate too much mass
yeah, it's one thing to say we need to quit being mean to fat people (we do) but it's a bit frustrating sometimes having people tell me it's okay that i've put on weight when for me it's not okay. i literally could have made state records with my endurance, but running fucks me up, and even more when i'm out of shape
If we’re really talking convenience, I used to always get Gardein-brand frozen things, like vegan meatballs, plus a side of preseasoned microwaveable frozen veggies. About the same amount of work as a frozen pizza. I still love Gardein
Agree completely. I had an epiphany during these Covid times about what I needed from my diet, which was simply to eat less and eat differently/vegan. Over the years, this has been framed to me as “restriction” or “disordered,” but that’s not true. I eat things that I want to eat, but less of them. I had to look at myself and be honest about the fact that I just don’t need to eat that many calories. I’m short and, at the moment, not overly active.
I also noticed how easy it was to be fed by people at work; pre-Covid, people would bring in snacks or there would be pizza or cake or cookies for whatever reason. Now it’s not happening due to social distancing, and I feel a lot better without having to think about it at all. I don’t have to resist the offers of food, and I don’t have to argue with myself. I just go home and have the stuff I really want. Kind of dreading the return to form, to be honest.
Oh man cooking was such a daunting task for me for so long. (Sometimes it still is and my roommates are like ???? ) I’m pretty annoyed that cooking wasn’t a regular part of life growing up.
There's a piece I can link about how many FA people try to lose weight and keep it a secret because they feel guilty about it. I would recommend you look into body neutrality, which is talked about elsewhere in this post https://hexbear.net/post/83994/comment/910868
I think that Huffington Post article has some good points about how obesity should be addressed on a personal level and how the American medical system will never be able to actually address this issue. But I don't think they approach the weight/health problem very well. They mention that weight isn't inherently tied to health because 1/3 to 3/4 of obese patients may show no signs of high cholesterol or insulin resistance. However, obesity is like smoking in that you could take a cross section of smokers and find that a large portion of them are healthy. The real issue is that being obese or smoking are drastically increasing the odds of negative medical outcomes in the future.
I'll post some sources about BMI tomorrow, however I direct you to this study which shows that it's not as simple as fat = bad https://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/02/health/study-suggests-lower-death-risk-for-the-overweight.html
Oh I agree that you can't say fat=bad I was referring more to higher levels of obesity, which as that NYtimes article says is a large risk. The issue with that NYtimes article though is that the study isn't really drawing a meaningful conclusion. Saying mortality rate is the end all be all is very misleading. I'm hoping that's just an issue with the pop science reporting of the times and not the actual study, because the link to the actual study is dead.
Ah yeah that's what I feared. It's similar to that study that was going around on reddit that claimed veganism is bad because vegans have a higher overall mortality rate but it also failed to take into account correlating factors. The amount of shitty science and shitty science reporting being done cannot be good for convincing the general public to trust the science of climage change.
But it IS a medical issue for many people. Of course people can chose what they want to do with their bodies and disparaging them doesn't work. However many people are trying to "overcorrect" by pretending that abnormal weight is actually good for you or that nothing you ever try will help you deal with it and I really don't think it is helpful at all. My cousin has struggled with obesity for a long time, at some point he had to be operated because it was damaging his body. He is doing better than back then now but it's really not that great, and his learning difficulties plus a mostly unhelpful family in that regard are making it harder. I don't think this kind of approach is necessarily helpful.
I've been fat basically all my life.
Around kindergarten or so my parents realized that it wasn't baby fat any more and that maybe, just maybe me opening the pantry lock on multiple occasions and using a chair to reach the peanut butter jar and shove as much of it into my mouth without a drink until I got caught might be a warning sign. But rather than investigate for any nutrient deficiencies or mental issues their autistic child was going through they decided to start putting me on trend diets. I'm assuming they felt a pang of guilt making a small child go on adult diets, so they would also go on the same diets. Instead of motivating me it would just make me feel worthless whenever the diets worked on them but not me. I remember a few months where they would have me pack a can of slimfast for lunch and then by the time I got home I'd be starving and scarf down whatever was in the pantry. The diets would change about every year or so, and so I ended up having weight fluctuations while my overall weight increased. I remember my mom crying one day about my weight being 150 pounds before I even reached middle school and then yelling "YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT, DON'T YOU?" and telling her that her and dad were the ones who wanted me to lose weight. They'd guilt me about being fat every chance they got. The only thing that worked in my childhood wasn't diets but being forced to go to a gym and lift weights for half a year. Muscle really does help burn weight. But then I hit high school and because grades always come first we all forgot about the gym and the weight bounced back. Eventually I was able to drive my own car in high school and that's when my weight fucking skyrocketed.
So I'm an adult now and I've realized that I have both a physical and mental need to over eat. I've used food as a coping mechanism since I was a toddler, and that only increased as I continued to push down my autistic self and replace it with someone that can pass as just a little odd. I know that I need therapy, but I also know that I need to keep my finances in check and that therapy might end up being as expensive as a second car even with health insurance because I live in the fucking U.S.A. and with covid I can't even work overtime to put extra money into savings. I feel like I'm so close to getting professional help and yet part of me always pulls my arm back and says "Next year might be even worse financially, yet you already know what it's like to be fat. You're still young, you can gamble on your health a little longer. Bad finances could fuck over your credit score and ability to rent for years to come." Like FUCK, why do I have to pick???
Guess I'll just continue to cope until I can afford professional help.
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:heart-sickle: I’m sorry the conditions of this absolute hellscape of a country are such that you aren’t able to get care for things you’ve basically been struggling with for your entire life. Parenting is incredibly difficult and it’s uniquely frustrating to get to adulthood and realize that some of the things your parents did out of a desire to help improve your life actually end up having the opposite effect. Hopefully you’ll end up being able to get care soon but in the meantime this community is more than willing to provide as much help/care/advice/support as possible.
I know this is the opposite of a weight loss thread, but it sounds like you’re interested in getting fit.
I had a really hard time staying fit since the gyms closed, and I don’t have a weight kit at home so I’ve been using a pull up bar (probably won’t work for you) push ups, and a bucket that I can put sand in to to adjust its weight.
I used to be overweight but managed to ditch it, so if you want to talk pm me or something.
BMI is kinda silly because it is very reductive. Someone may have a high BMI just because they are jacked.
Lol for real tho, Richard Froning Jr is supposed to be the fittest man alive or whatever and his BMI is almost 29, which puts him at overweight, close to "obese", because, well, he's basically really buff and muscles weigh a lot.
On national scales, I agree. I was referring to the personal level. Someone can't just conclude that they are unhealthy just by looking at their BMI, you have to look at other things.
Re: BMI, from this very thead: https://hexbear.net/post/83994/comment/910664
I can’t believe how often I’ve been in the car with someone and they have commented on the body of a STRANGER walking by. Like how do they not realize how weird that is?
I really love the body neutrality movement! I think body pos alienates a lot of people and ends up making them feel worse.
For anyone who isn't familiar, here are a couple tumblr posts which explain a bit more:
- https://strawberry-ethereal.tumblr.com/post/638662051025354752/in-my-recovery-from-my-eating-disorder-im-reject
- https://panandproud123.tumblr.com/post/639270844206645248/hi-yes-lets-normalize-something-called-body
- https://body-neutrality.tumblr.com/
You can think fat people aren't sexy without getting cancelled for it
The body neutrality movement does see the body as something which doesn’t need to be beautiful, however another way to put it would be to say you're treating all bodies, including your own, with respect.
In terms of attraction, I think these movements are more about personal pride (positivity) or respect (neutrality) rather than external attraction.
Great to know I can never be beautiful until I lose weight.
Great to know nobody appreciates my body.
Was the "black is beautiful" movement objectifying too?
I just finished reading that second article you listed and this quote has me just baffled:
In 1997, a panel of nine medical experts tapped by the National Institutes of Health voted to lower the BMI cutoff for overweight from 27 (28 for men) to 25. So, overnight, millions of Americans became overweight thanks to the NIH. The panel argued that the change brought BMI cutoffs into line with World Health Organization Criteria and that a ‘round’ number like 25 would be easier for people to remember. What they didn’t say, because they didn’t have to, is that lowering BMI cutoffs put more people into the overweight and obese categories, which in turn made more people eligible for treatment. More patients to treat means new markets and more money to be made from doctors and hospitals to pharmaceutical companies and yes, researchers.
Lowering the BMI so that it would be easier for people to remember? Not taking into account the implications, wtf?
And this is pretty big too IMO:
Weight cycling has been associated with an increased risk of cardiovascular problems and higher mortality from all causes. Indeed some research indicates that weight cycling can account for all of the excess mortality risks for certain diseases associated with being in a larger body. One large-scale, long-term study followed more than 3,100 people over thirty-two years; it found weight cycling correlated with an increased risk of death from all causes and an increased risk of developing coronary heart disease, even after controlling for BMI and other potentially confounding factors such as preexisting illness and smoking. Not only that, but the relative risks attributable to weight cycling were comparable to the risks that typically get blamed on being in a larger body — suggesting that if all studies were to control for weight cycling, any excess risk from so-called ‘overweight’ or ‘obesity’ might disappear… Until all research can control for weight cycling and weight stigma, we can’t say that being at the higher end of the BMI spectrum causes any health conditions — even if higher weights are associated with these health conditions.
I very much like his final sentences:
As Virgie Tovar says about dieting in You Have the Right to Remain Fat, “You cannot learn to love yourself by walking a path paved by self-hatred.” This process is necessary for us to be able to liberate ourselves, and those who are most marginalized. There is no liberation without mutual liberation, so let’s all get fucking free.
Thanks for posting these resources because it made me realize that I too have internalized a lot of these thought patterns, which I hadn't recognized before or didn't see as negative, so to speak.
And that I still have a lot of learning to do on this topic, seems like a really cornerstone issue on the path towards liberation too, now that I'm thinking about it.Gonna read the others you listed as well to see some other perspectives as well, not just the one I can relate the easiest to.
Sorry if this is a bit disjointed lolSo, thanks again!
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I'd say "weight cycling" is an inevitable result of being overweight unless you're being extremely strict about your diet.
Why though? IMO if I eat regularly I usually stay within a 1-2 kg range, so I would assume that that wouldn't change much for someone weighing more, their baseline would just be higher, right?
Thanks for engaging and pasting some paragraphs that were eye-opening for you! I'll be posting some more pieces tomorrow :)
Thanks good sharing those links, comrade, I'd known a bit about set points, capitalism's impact, and fatphobia but never did any in depth reading on the subjects.
Reading about people insisting that fat people just needing better discipline and impulse control really resonated with me since I got used to hearing that about other things before I got diagnosed with ADHD.
Other people's weights have never really been on my mind but knowing the actual research behind why some people are fat and how most of the health implications of being fat are societally driven is gonna help me discuss it with people who are being fatphobic rather than just telling them to knock it off
people insisting that fat people just needing better discipline and impulse control
Liberalism is a religion
It is the liberals who have the problem with eating, eating out of the garbage can of ideology
It is time to set that trashcan on fire :dumpster-fire:
But my mother’s story, like Sam’s, like everyone’s, didn’t have to turn out like this. For 60 years, doctors and researchers have known two things that could have improved, or even saved, millions of lives. The first is that diets do not work. Not just paleo or Atkins or Weight Watchers or Goop, but all diets. Since 1959, research has shown that 95 to 98 percent of attempts to lose weight fail and that two-thirds of dieters gain back more than they lost
Oh wow, that's crazy. When I lost >100 lbs over the course of a year doing keto and carefully tracking my caloric intake (with very little exercise) it must have been the fat fairy that was actually making me lose weight.
It's almost like a bunch of people who did actually have the economic means and time to follow a diet but didn't have the discipline or self-control to follow through with that diet and/or address their relationship to food and overeating once they stopped that diet created a whole movement based around the idea that their weight was actually never a problem at all, providing cover for neoliberal system that has created conditions in which it is genuinely hard for many others to lose weight. Fat people should not be treated differently from anyone else and they aren't bad or immoral people for being fat, but that's not the same thing as saying that me being obese was healthy.
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Yes, sugar will cause cardiovascular issues and yes that has been poorly reported for various reasons, including economic incentives.
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No, fat isn't better for cardiovascular health across the board. Some fats in too much quantity are still in fact unhealthy and can lead to heart disease.
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they aren't, a fair amount of people are successful initially but gain their weight back between 5 to 10 years, that's what the 5% figure represents. i figure most people start not giving a shit tbh, calorie control is easy on paper but it starts to take over every part of your brain. every trip to the store, every time you hang out with your friends, when you visit your parents you're like "how much calories are in this or that" or "maybe i can make up for this by eating a bunch of tuna at dinner". at some point you're like "what's the point of this, i don't even feel good at all", and stop doing it altogether
Fatphobia is so fucking harmful, the first time I ever felt happy about my body was at 20 when I met another transfem enby who was fat like me and I thought that not only did they look super hot but they also looked like me, which was like a revelation. Now I feel genuinely happy about my body and have decided that I flat out just look hotter fat than I would if I lost a bunch of weight, fuck all the concern trolling about health theres so much unhealthy shit already thats both 100% accepted and doesnt make me look hot at the same time so why care about it here.
I was never morbid, but I was obese for almost 20 years. I was shamed, it made me hate myself more which led to stress eating.
It wasn't until I lost my health insurance that I became hyper health focused to help prevent medical bankruptcy, even if it was only marginally improved. Gave up meat and dairy, work out regularly, and follow nutritional guidelines. The US healthcare system scares the shit out of me and I know it's only delaying the inevitable but its worth it to me. Definitely helped my sex life too, until last year...but fear and pleasure will only take you so far down the road.
One day I looked into the mirror and saw fat, I gave my torso a squeeze and two things came into my mind that cemented my resolve: My consumption habits deprived food from the hungry while destroying myself and I need to plan and commit to my own physical/mental transformation (like going from an agricultural to industrial civilization) if I was ever going to commit to advocating societal change of AmeriKKKa.
It worked for me, not because of the Darwinist healthcare system or fat shaming, but because I finally learned to attach positive health habits to my moral desires.
Fuck yeah, i was waiting for this discourse to take off. Here's another article saying BMI is both useless AND racist and why we shouldn't use it to measure health
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/bmi-scale-racist-health_l_5f15a8a8c5b6d14c336a43b0
“It is racist, and also sexist, to use mostly white men within your study population and then try to extrapolate that and create norms and expectations for women and people of color,” Strings told HuffPost. “They have not been included in the initial clinical analyses, and therefore their actual health outcomes cannot be determined by these findings.”
In short, the way BMI is being used is unscientific because of its origins and the homogenous population it was created from.
thin bodies of northern and western Europeans were upheld as the ideal, while the often larger bodies of eastern and southern Europeans, as well as Africans, were considered signs of their inferiority. All of this was before we really knew anything about the (still blurry and confounding) relationship between weight and health. The modern BMI and its categories ― underweight, normal, overweight and obese ― have inherited much of that racism.
Many males with anorexia nervosa go undiagnosed because they are technically within the “normal” BMI category, Gaudiani said. The same thing happens to people at higher weights, who often don’t get screened for eating disorders despite things like significant recent weight loss, symptoms of malnutrition or reported eating disorder behaviors.
This actually happened to me, to some degree. I went into the doctor for something else after unintentionally losing around 25 lbs in a year due to not eating because of anxiety. My body felt like shit, I was constantly dizzy and tired. My face was sunken. i could feel my bones and see all my ribs. It literally hurt to sit because my ass and thighs were losing padding and i just felt my bones. Some days, i could eat nothing. On my good days, i was able to eat perhaps half a regular meal and a snack. I felt and looked sick.
The doctors said nothing, because i still barely in the "healthy" BMI range (i got big xaddy milkers which throw the scale off. No matter how emaciated i became, the tit persists), in fact they didn't even ask about my weight loss, it was just assumed to be good/intentional. Conversely, years ago i was a bit heavier and barely dipped over to the "overweight" range for BMI. I went to see the doctor for a refill of birth control and immediately my doctor asked "if i was happy at this weight" and adopted a judgemental tone when she asked it. She also implied i didn't need antidepressants if i "took care of myself better" and pressured me to go off them, which i did, which gave me terrible withdrawals and still didn't fix my depression, anxiety, or PTSD. My next doctor put me back on them after i tested high on the depression scale lol
On the flip side, uncle who was in the military was actually forced to lose weight at some point because his BMI was too high - but he was built out of pure muscle and had a healthily low fat %. He had to stop working out and let muscle atrophy to be able to fit their arbitrary weight range.
Thanks for posting that! I'm going to highlight BMI in my post tomorrow because it's SO arbitrary even without the whole body-builder argument
Oh and relevant to your comment, in the last piece above there is this quote, which is a bit of a window into what you might be experiencing:
Lesley Williams, a family medicine doctor in Phoenix, tells me she gets an alert from her electronic health records software every time she’s about to see a patient who is above the “overweight” threshold. The reason for this is that physicians are often required, in writing, to prove to hospital administrators and insurance providers that they have brought up their patient’s weight and formulated a plan to bring it down—regardless of whether that patient came in with arthritis or a broken arm or a bad sunburn. Failing to do that could result in poor performance reviews, low ratings from insurance companies or being denied reimbursement if they refer patients to specialized care.
What the fuck :|
Thanks for posting the OP, lots of libs still haven't realized the full extent of the harm the stigma from fatphobia causes. It's wild how people will just make assumptions about strangers from their bodies and then repeat those as if the stigma isn't actually dangerously dehumanizing.
r/fatpeoplehate normalised it in libs brains.
I mean also like the entire media, particularly childrens, but I want to make witty chapo post hahaha
Posted the next part in this anti-fatphobia series https://hexbear.net/post/84364 :)
Keep reading comrade. It may seem that simple, however when one loses a large amount of weight their body literally starts using less energy and so they have to eat no more than a thousand calories for the rest of their lives. https://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/02/health/biggest-loser-weight-loss.html
I hope you realise that your quote emphasises that it is not in their control to stay skinny the rest of their lives
I really think we need to change the messaging on this issue. It’s not “Diet and exercise,” it’s “Exercise until it becomes second nature and feels good, then barely restrict your calories so your body hardly notices the difference.” People want big results and fast so they cut back their eating or change their diet all at once. Sure, it’s exciting to lose a pound or more per week, but it’s much more sustainable to go for a pound or two per month. Make incrimental changes one at a time until they become a habit. Much less damaging for the ego to relapse on one tiny new commitment than an entire diet, makes it easier to avoid feelings of failure that motivate people to give up entirely that way.
Hell I'm guilty of it right now - but I'm returning to a way of eating and exercise that I maintained for years (and felt great!), not trying to start something foreign to me. I got out of my good habits due to depression. It would be very different if I were starting from zero, but even now I'm easing back into it instead of rushing all at once. It took me about 4 years to fully implement the changes to my diet that I wanted the first time. I set a new goal about once every 3-6 months. No soda at first, then cutting back other sweets, then changing my snacks to healthier options, then cutting out refined grains, then working on increasing the ratio of veggies/fruits on my plate, then cutting out added sugar entirely, then lowering my sodium intake. Most recently I had made it to 50% vegetarian/vegan days before the depression got me. Of course during the entire process I had set backs at times, but because I only took on one change at a time I'd only fall back to the level immediately before. Takes a really long time to break the addiction to sugars and salts and cheap fats the food industry hooks us on. No way would I have succeeded if I tried to do it all at once.
However, I recognize the importance of the OP for this to be feasible. People need to feel loved and supported through this serious lifestyle change, not pressured and judged. I really appreciated the the essay by Matt McGorry. The toxicity surrounding this issue is immense!
This quote from the first piece shows the harm that diets cause:
Weight cycling has been associated with an increased risk of cardiovascular problems and higher mortality from all causes. Indeed some research indicates that weight cycling can account for all of the excess mortality risks for certain diseases associated with being in a larger body. One large-scale, long-term study followed more than 3,100 people over thirty-two years; it found weight cycling correlated with an increased risk of death from all causes and an increased risk of developing coronary heart disease, even after controlling for BMI and other potentially confounding factors such as preexisting illness and smoking. Not only that, but the relative risks attributable to weight cycling were comparable to the risks that typically get blamed on being in a larger body — suggesting that if all studies were to control for weight cycling, any excess risk from so-called ‘overweight’ or ‘obesity’ might disappear… Until all research can control for weight cycling and weight stigma, we can’t say that being at the higher end of the BMI spectrum causes any health conditions — even if higher weights are associated with these health conditions.
It's more "(in the case of fat people) diets are harmful or impossible to maintain so it's better to focus on your health rather than the number on the scale".
that's why building muscle is better, your body is forced to take in nutrients and metabolize them.