Alright so in general, this community handled this whole ordeal really well during the investigation. But now that it's closed, turning it into a "meme" is still really harmful for anyone who has been sexually abused or has gone through the process of reporting sexual abuse.

Just, keep in mind that the jokes you make may seem harmless to you, but for people who have experienced this kind of thing (on both sides), it makes the community feel less like a safe space.

Yesterday, a bunch of people on the Discord were ripping the original story to pieces in a way that almost seemed victim-blame-y. While yes, I tended to agree with a lot of what those people were saying, anyone reading the reaction would likely feel uncomfortable or unable to come forward in the community if they had experienced sexual abuse without being "ripped apart."

I didn't see that much here on ChaCha, but it's worth a reminder. So, just something to keep in mind while y'all are celebrating.

Edit: y'all this should not be considered a "hot take"

Edit2: alright this has been extraordinarily exhausting so I'm gonna just.. call it quits for a lil bit on this. toodles.

  • a_blanqui_slate [none/use name, any]
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    4 years ago

    There was a subsequent allegation about an hour after the first that was targeted at another mod that got memory holed for being an obvious op so it's clear the notion that we have to take every obviously contrived allegation incredibly seriously and somberly is a fiction.

    • emily [she/her,they/them]
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      4 years ago

      .... not really sure what you're trying to accomplish with this one tbh. so uh, who decides what gets taken seriously and what doesn't?

      • a_blanqui_slate [none/use name, any]
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        4 years ago

        Right, and the point isn't that she should now be suspended pending investigation, because those allegations were clearly on their bad faith wreckers. The point is someone is not being problematic for also thinking that Beatnik's accuser was a bad faith wrecker on their face, because as I've documented elsewhere, Beatnik's accuser was actually far less credible than a simple "Mod-so-and-so sexually assaulted me".