This should be fucking obvious but an argument I just went through on Twitter (gods I really should just not get on twitter) tells me that even left-leaning people for some reason sometimes think they are owed this information simply because they are interested in flirting.

Transpeople have no obligation to out themselves. even if you have or are going to kiss, or date them.

To think otherwise is to assume you are owed knowledge about their body. To get upset after they do tell you is to assume you were entitled to continue the relationship, or that they were trying to manipulate you.

If you have hangups that would prevent a relationship it's on YOU to be upfront about them or to accept the potential disappointment with grace.

  • machiabelly [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    lmao I'm just trying to imagine how robotic our conversations would have to be for the ace point to make any sense at all. Excuse me madam but I believe that you view me as a potential sexual prospect, I regret to inform you that I am sex repulsed. As wonderful as I'm sure it would be to have you in such a setting I feel that I must make it clear that your vague advances and lingering glances will not lead to a satisfying conclusion. Do you enjoy board games?

    • Ryaina [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      XD. there is a spectrum to being ace too so it's conceivable that a person would want to flirt without the sex.

      least, that's my experience

    • MerryChristmas [any]
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      4 years ago

      I like that little rhyme at the end - vague advances and lingering glances.