I am about to turn 24, and I (am lucky enough to) still live with my parents whereas most of my friends have already "moved on." I live in a small town in the bible belt, and it seems like a good chunk of the people that just graduated college are now getting married to their high school sweetheart and having kids right off the bat. Some of my other high school friends (I didn't have a good college run) are now actuaries, accountants, and IT guys and are relatively comfortable with serious partners. Needless to say, I can't really relate to them at all anymore, unfortunately (nor would they really have time to get together regardless).
Idk I just kinda feel embarrassed about the state of my life as a person in their mid-twenties still living at home and I'm curious if anyone can relate. My parents aren't rich or anything like that, so they can't help me pay off my student debt or any of my medical bills, but they're giving me a place for free so I cannot complain. It seems like everywhere I go I can't get away from people (or even media in general) mocking the idea of living with your parents because you're a loser with mental health problems who can't pull yourself up by the bootstraps and start a company with your trust fund money or some shit
I don't, but if I did FUCK no, theres nothing wrong in the slightest with still living at home, for MILLIONS of people that's the only play that makes sense, anyone who finds that shameful can sit on a cactus and gargle battery acid
feeling shame for living at home is like so many other things a brainworm obtained through indoctrination, same as how it's 'taboo' to discuss pay at work. It's NOT, they just want you to feel that way to motivate you to behave advantageously to them. Don't talk about your pay so we can more easily get away with paying you less. Don't stay living at home, you have to move out so we can sink our fingers into you, burden you with (more) debt, and extract profits from you
Happy to say them! :Care-Comrade:
You're valuable inherently, you needn't fulfil arbitrary benchmarks of our capitalist society for that to be true, it's just hard to remember sometimes. Stay strong comrade!
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25 year old journalist here who lives at home and lies to his coworkers about the fact. Also, whenever anyone tries to shame me, I use idpol and say i "live in a generational household based on filial piety" and anyone who has an issue with it is racist towards Asian culture
I'm in my mid-30s and I live at home. I had a place of my own for a while, but I don't really have much of a social life in this state (in a whole year, I had one friend over to that place once, and he was helping me move in lol). So I moved back home. Was going to go to grad school this year, but I got rejected from all the (top tier) schools I applied to (I may have set my sights too high lol). And then covid happened.
That said, I do have a decent job, so I could be on my own, but right now it makes no sense to move out just to be bored and lonely. I don't really have any social prospects here, so there's just no real point to living on my own until I can move somewhere new that's actually interesting. I do plan to do that once the pandemic is over, though--I'm getting really sick of being stuck in this rut. Not really embarrassed by it but I do feel like my life is slipping away right now.
I'm in my mid 30s and live in a major city and I definitely feel like my life is slipping away too. It's still just too awkward to try dating with the pandemic stuff. I still see a few friends here and there but we just drink beer, smoke weed, and watch tv because we have nowhere else to go really. So until the pandemic is really over you ain't missing shit, my friend.
It's become less and less viable to actually go and check the boxes on the normative 'life success' list as time's gone on. Fewer people are able to leave home, much later in their lives, with diminished social and employment opportunities, with ever more ways to spend less and less money, and so on and so on (schniff)
The fact I can't afford rent let alone food & upkeep costs means even if I wanted kids I'd still settle for a cat.
yeah if things continue as they are, I'd wager that fewer zoomers than any other preceding generation will be able to pass these 'landmarks'
lol yeah I am never going to be able to have kids and I'll be lucky as hell if I could afford a cat. I swear this world gets darker and darker every single day as you age having been raised in a lower middle class (whatever the fuck that is) household. Like, in high school, I thought I was pretty well off because I never had to worry about food, clothing, or shelter, then college comes around and gives me a dose of reality. I thought a job would just fall into my lap and my social circle would last forever
'Lower middle class' just means 'my parents saw some class mobility in their lives'. My folks are fine, really bootstrapped and bodysurfed their way through the economic tides over the years and now own their own homes, and yet they struggle to see how anyone could fall short on such a path because of it.
I don't know why I used the term "lower middle class." Perhaps to try to paint a visual?It's all working class
My dad always made a decent salary and works for a boss, but calls himself a capitalist
I'm 27 and I don't even see myself living alone for like another 10 fucking years. It's going to suck, capitalism ruined a generation of people ffs.
I just can't buy my own property, I can't. They're expensive as fuck and salaries are worth SHIT.
Intergenerational homes should be normalized. That being said, I also think that if adult children are able, they should help with shouldering the home expenses and not burdening their parents. In exchange, I do think kids should help take care of their elderly parents when they get really old, rather than throwing them in those hellish old folks homes.
Me too comrade :(
I haven't thought about suicide this much since I was in high school (if only I knew what I was in for)
Normal in my culture to stay with your parents til you get married. If you get along with your parents it’s not so bad. The post-WWII boom is to blame for this stigma imo.
I have a physical disability so I have to live at home with my parents or with others that are able to help when I need it. It will probably be impossible for me to live on my own ever, I'll always need a partner or friends or a caretaker of some sort. Yeah I feel shame and embarrassment, but what I'm I supposed to do, like I can't just regrow my body or remove all the metal in it that's holding everything together.
i moved out on my own after grad school finished at age 27 or so. i'm age 35 now. doing well for myself with job, house, etc.
i wish i still lived at home... :(
Me but with medical debt, can't blame my parents for that one unfortunately
I'm 4 years older than you and yeah, I do.
It's probably the main thing keeping me from pursuing dating, just cuz I don't want the humiliation of having to admit my living situation over and over again.
I've brought it up here before, and people tell me it's more common now and not a big deal, but I dunno.
Not saying you have to feel this way too or anything, I'm only speaking for myself.
No, I certainly can relate in that regard. I haven't dated anyone since college, and I'm starting to think that I won't until I move out. That might just be something I'm going to have to live with.
