Arguing with some hogs about it and not sure where I stand. Feel like it's a noble goal that should happen some day, but personally, if I had a kid I wouldn't do it because I'd fear they'd get bullied for it. Thoughts?
Arguing with some hogs about it and not sure where I stand. Feel like it's a noble goal that should happen some day, but personally, if I had a kid I wouldn't do it because I'd fear they'd get bullied for it. Thoughts?
I'm referencing this more specifically:
Treating them as some genderless entity is no better than assuming their gender at birth but giving them room to decide otherwise. This comments talks about it better than I can.
And there's a big difference between gender conformance (clothes, activities, and personality traits like you mentioned) and gender. Of course don't make your child conform to a gender, but that doesn't mean treating them as if they have no gender.
How is giving a child the name taylor forcing them to be a genderless entity? Or teaching them to throw a baseball and also take dance?
If they say "I don't like dance" then don't make them go lol.
If the child says that they are a girl, that's fine. I'm not saying you turn to her and tell her she isn't.
Children don't need their parents to tell them what their gender is - theyre pretty intuitive about that.
Maybe you didn't see my edit, but again, these aren't gender. They are gender norms. One can easily break norms while still being cis, and you don't have to treat your child gender neutrally to allow them to do those things.
As for naming your child, it's inherently making an important decision for them no matter what. I don't see any more harm in giving someone assumed to be male a male name and leaving them free to decide if they want to change it than giving them a gender neutral name. Are we going to expect every single child to pick a new name later in life? Also most gender neutral names are just kinda meh IMO.