Not just, but there are so many things that factor into any individual person's sexual attraction. People don't even find everyone within that "preference" umbrella to be attractive. Putting on my Ben Shapiro voice - let's say, hypothetically, that I'm only attracted to men. This doesn't mean that I find all men attractive, or that my genitals get all hot and bothered by someone just for being a man. Expecting people to experience sexual attraction towards someone (I mean, expecting this at all is uuuhhhhhhhhhhh) because they fall under this massive categorical umbrella is... pretty weird, and feels like essentialism.
And also, this discourse veers uncomfortably close to the right wing rhetoric about homosexuality being a choice. And that ain't great.
Same. If I get rejected because I'm a woman with a penis and someone doesn't like dicks, I'm not going to feel attacked because I'm not being rejected for being trans.
But if I get bottom surgery and a sweet new vagina, and someone else thinks I'm a woman with a vagina, they really need to examine themselves if they suddenly change their minds when they find out the vagina is a new feature. At that point, the only reason why I'm being rejected is because I'm trans. OR, maybe it's because I have a lot of body hair! In which case, that's fine by me. I'm not being singled out for being trans, there's plenty of cis women who like their body hair and some people don't find that appealing.
Tl;dr I think it's always possible to reject someone without being transphobic. So when someone says they're not interested because I'm trans, then they're being transphobic, because I guarantee there exists a trans person who they would otherwise find attractive.
I don't know what word to use if not "preference". People have preferences.
Not just, but there are so many things that factor into any individual person's sexual attraction. People don't even find everyone within that "preference" umbrella to be attractive. Putting on my Ben Shapiro voice - let's say, hypothetically, that I'm only attracted to men. This doesn't mean that I find all men attractive, or that my genitals get all hot and bothered by someone just for being a man. Expecting people to experience sexual attraction towards someone (I mean, expecting this at all is uuuhhhhhhhhhhh) because they fall under this massive categorical umbrella is... pretty weird, and feels like essentialism.
And also, this discourse veers uncomfortably close to the right wing rhetoric about homosexuality being a choice. And that ain't great.
Same. If I get rejected because I'm a woman with a penis and someone doesn't like dicks, I'm not going to feel attacked because I'm not being rejected for being trans.
But if I get bottom surgery and a sweet new vagina, and someone else thinks I'm a woman with a vagina, they really need to examine themselves if they suddenly change their minds when they find out the vagina is a new feature. At that point, the only reason why I'm being rejected is because I'm trans. OR, maybe it's because I have a lot of body hair! In which case, that's fine by me. I'm not being singled out for being trans, there's plenty of cis women who like their body hair and some people don't find that appealing.
Tl;dr I think it's always possible to reject someone without being transphobic. So when someone says they're not interested because I'm trans, then they're being transphobic, because I guarantee there exists a trans person who they would otherwise find attractive.