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  • jack [he/him, comrade/them]
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    4 years ago

    the people doing Friday night magic at your local game store often have the same social discomforts and anxieties, trust me

    Plus, the point of these activities isn't just to be in a situation where there other people. The shared activity gives an easy topic of discussion and a distraction from the social effort. You just play the game/do the thing and it happens naturally.

    • Dapper_Cassowary [he/him,none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      I do sincerely appreciate the encouragement. I dont want to seem contrarian but just even finding these groups feels out of reach. Everyone says just join a group but literally I dont understand how to find said groups. Might be my own inability but it is terribly isolating to be in a city alone. Edit: I also dont play games like magic. Ill play other board games though.

      • jack [he/him, comrade/them]
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        4 years ago

        The steps to get involved in it aren't complicated (I keep harping on a game store because it's what I do personally).

        1. Use this site to find one near you https://www.localgamestores.com/

        2. Pick one and look at its event schedule

        3. Go to something described as beginner friendly

        4. Give it your best effort; no one is judging you

        It won't be easy, but it will be simple. If you've come here asking, you understand that you need to make a behavioral change to improve your social life. This is it. It requires effort and commitment.

        Do you mind if I message you in a few days to ask if you've followed up on this?

        • Dapper_Cassowary [he/him,none/use name]
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          4 years ago

          You can follow up, it will likely not be a totally positive result when you do. However I see what you mean and will do my best to try and improve. Thank you again! :heart-sickle:

          • jack [he/him, comrade/them]
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            4 years ago

            It's hard to do something new and scary! But your comfort zone is only making you miserable, so you gotta break out of it..And sometimes you will fail! That's ok. The key is to not let things discourage you.

            Motivation comes from doing.